September 08, 2010
Sometimes when you’re in an intense or passionate relationship, it’s hard to recognize when lines are being crossed. You can get comfortable with dysfunction and not realize when you are being abused, especially if your partner hasn’t yet become physically violent. The National Domestic Violence Hotline has a quiz for indentifying abuse.
Go through the following checklist to find out whether your relationship is unhealthy and could be dangerous:
Does your partner:
Isolate you from friends, family members or supporters?
Embarrass you with put-downs?
Look or act in ways that scare you?
Control what you do or who you see or talk to?
Manipulate you with control of money?
Dominate all decisions?
Criticize your parenting and threaten to take away or hurt your children?
Prevent you from working or attending school?
Deny or downplay abuse or try to blame you for “provoking” it?
Destroy your property?
Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
Shove you, slap you, choke you or hit you?
Force you to drop charges?
Threaten to commit suicide?
Threaten to kill you?
If you answered yes to even one of these warning signs, you may be in an abusive relationship. For support and more information please call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY (800) 787-3224.