Lifestyle Audit


You cannot have a bad marriage if you don't have a lifestyle that supports it. You have to work at it. You need to have chaos, scheduling problems, communication and anger problems, etc. These are all elements that support a bad marriage.

In a lifestyle audit, you look at what you are doing to support what you don't want in your relationship. Look at the things you want eliminated in your marriage and write down everything in your lifestyle that is making the negative elements possible.

SAMPLE AUDIT
For example, if you have gained a significant amount of weight, are now ashamed to be seen in public, and it has affected your marriage, you might list the following items:

In my marriage, I don't want: my emotional and physical needs ignored.

Elements in my lifestyle that support this:

In my marriage, I don't want: my spouse leaving me at home while he goes out to socialize.

Elements in my lifestyle that support this:

YOUR TURN
To perform your own lifestyle audit, all you need is some paper, a pen, and time to reflect. Be completely honest about what you don't want in your marriage and the things that you are doing to support those elements.