Circle of Support Dos and Don'ts

Key #7, circle of support, is the hardest key because you can't do it yourself, and you can't control others. Here's what Dr. Phil suggests for how to support — and make sure you don't sabotage — a loved one.


  • Remind me how much you care.

  • Trust in me.

  • Give me positive feedback.

  • Honor my behavior and actions.

  • Be patient with me.

  • Be honest about your feelings.

  • Laugh with me.


  • Sabotage me with tempting foods.

  • Make fun of my program.

  • Make threats of separation.

  • Downplay the importance of my health.

  • Be threatened.

  • Call me names.

  • Put yourself down.

    For more on Key #7, circle of support, read The Ultimate Weight Solution: The 7 Keys to Weight Loss Freedom.