Marriage Inventory Quiz

Is your marriage headed down the aisle of divorce? Dr. Phil's guests say their marriage is in meltdown. Denise says she and her husband of two years, Rick, are physically abusive, constantly argue, rarely have sex and are in so much debt, they're struggling to pay the bills and keep food on the table for their five children.

Dr. Phil shares the six quickest ways to ruin a marriage, and their relationship has all of them. Take the quiz and find out if your relationship is at risk.

1. Do You Control or Abuse Your Spouse?
Dr. Phil's guest, Denise, says her husband, Rick, controls her every move. "Everything I do is through him or for him or by him," she says, adding that he has disconnected the home phone, taken her cell phone and taken away her keys. She also says that he can be violent. "He would wrestle me for my phone and hold my wrists back as far as he could possibly go without breaking them."

2. Do You and Your Spouse Define Your Relationship with Jealousy and Insecurity?
Both Rick and Denise admit to being jealous of the other. “I worry that he’s going to do things because he is so unhappy with me, and that bothers me,” she says.

Rick admits he’s jealous of Denise and that he’s said, “I hope you’ll get fat, so nobody will want you.”

3. Do You Lie and Deceive Your Spouse about Money?
At one point during their marriage, Rick was making more than $100,000 a year. Now, the family struggles to put food on the table. Denise says she had no idea about their financial situation because Rick doesn't tell her anything. Rick says he kept their finances hidden to protect Denise.

“You can’t just be a passenger here. You have to take some responsibility,” Dr. Phil tells Denise.

4. Do you involve your in-laws inappropriately?
Rick says Denise always runs to her mom, Sandy, when they have disagreements and says Sandy needs to butt out of their marriage.

“You’ve got to respect some boundaries in this relationship,” Dr. Phil tells Sandy.

5. Do You and Your Spouse Fail to be a United Parenting Front?
Denise and Rick say their biggest battle is over parenting.

“Children are devious little critters, and they know how to divide and conquer,” Dr. Phil tells the couple. “This good cop, bad cop … you’re confusing the children. You’re fighting in front of the children. That changes who they are.”

6. Do You Ignore Your Spouse’s Intimacy and Sexual Needs?
Rick says that Denise treats him more like a roommate than husband, and their sex life is terrible. Denise says Rick communicates with her via text — even when they're sitting on the same couch.

Dr. Phil explains that Rick has created a parent-child relationship with Denise through the way he takes control. No woman wants to go jump in bed with Daddy,” he says. “I believe that a couple’s relationship in the bedroom is a direct reflection of the rest of their relationship … Intimacy is really vulnerability. It’s when you let your guard down, you let somebody in close, you share things in a physical way, and if you spend all day [fighting], it’s hard to [be relaxed]. That’s not going to happen until everything else happens.”