Common Excuses of Abusers and Their Victims




Do you wonder if you're in an abusive relationship? Read the following excuses that abusers and their victims give. Abusers often blame others for their behavior. There is NO EXCUSE that justifies being abusive to another person.

Typical Abuser Excuses:


Women who are being abused often minimize what their abusive partner is doing, and give their own excuses for why they won't leave. 

Excuses Victims Give for Not Leaving an Abusive Relationship:


Do you recognize yourself or your partner in the above excuses? You may be in a dangerous relationship with unhealthy patterns. Please seek help — call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233).