I was skimming thru the messages and saw your one on working for your dad. Then, I saw the other one about the neighbor woman. I wanted to write back, but I wasn't sure if you were still around. If you ever want to find me here, just do a search for "figuritout" and find out which message board I'm writing on and then send a post so I can respond. I hope things are going better.
Oh, about weight loss--I'm wanting to do the same thing. I've gained a lot of weight during my (miserable) marriage. So, let me know if you want to talk.
Figuritout