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Quote From: ashley91

I am 32, my boyfriend is 41. He's almost avoided sex with me because he thought he wasn't good at it. He wouldn't last very long, but it was ok with me as long as he still tried to be intimate with me. That's what's important. He apologized numerous times when he couldn't continue & each and every time, I'd tell him it's ok. He's totally loosened up about it now and even initiates it. He told me he diverted from it  in the past because that's what people do when they don't think they're good at something.  Maybe it has to do with our age difference also, and him feeling pressured. Anyway, the change in him is so great, I think. My question now is, do you think it's possible he will see things differently when it comes to marriage/living together, to which he also said he didn't think he'd be good at because he's the creative type who can get caught up in his work/projects. He's told me he's thought of everything with us, even having kids, but that he's a confused person. He keeps going back and forth in his mind because he's concerned he can't be the husband he should be due to his workaholic ways, as he calls them. I just see the change in our sex life and in his opening up to it and can't help but think he will one day open up and realize that he doesn't need to change in order to get married, because I love him the way he is now, even if he's off working for several hours. He's so wonderful and always calls me, even several times. That's all I ask for. I just want to share life with him....not change him.