Quote From: lutt0031I do not believe this is a "human" issue. This man chose to spend time with me. He decided everytime he came to me that I was who he wanted to be, not her. He is the one who should have thought of her and his children. Don't put the burden on me as this is what is wrong with women, in general. We tear each other down. A guy who cheats is referred to as "boys being boys" and "oh, he's a dog". Women who cheat are homewreckers and whores...this is such a double standard. Dr. Phil says I have no business being in on another woman's turf. The fact remains that I am not stealing anyone. You cannot steal a person unless they want to be stolen from their horrible life.
I do agree with you, men are always looked at as boys being boys. But it's us women that let them think this way. I WOULD never think of you or someone in your position as a whore or homewrecker, it's the cheater that is the whore and homewrecker! That burden is NOT on you. But like I said. We do make choices and you choice to be with a married man. Yeah I see he lied to you about where his marriage really was. But until you are in this position, you can't speak for his wife or her husband because you only know him as your mistery man but not as the one that came home to his family. I know people stay together for the kids sake, I too am divorced with children and we talked about that as well. But it doesn't work and we all know it. The kids need parents but they don't have to live in the same household to still be a good parent. She may have taken it all for granted but he still was the wrong person in all of this. And the only reason I seem to come down on you is because you sit here and say you have no regrets. But if you knew about all this before, wouldn't you have changed it from the beginning. If he wanted to leave, he would! No doubt. She can't force him to stay. Nobody can force you to do anything....so if he really truly wanted to out of this marriage, he would be. And in regards to your wrong doing. SInce you didn't know about the truth to begin with, I can see how you are not wrong either. BUT you do know and you still sit here and blame her for it all and how she treats him. Well I guess she pushed him away into your arms, but that doesn't mean she deserved to be betrayed and lied to. What type of man are talking about, you are acting like he is worth all of this.
