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October 18, 2005, 9:36 pm PDT
Difference in Loving and Being in Love
Quote From: kbreau What is the huge deal? If you love someone then have sex... what are people trying to prove by waiting until they are 30 and 35? I don't think there are as many consequences as you think. If you love someone and have "protection" then I don't think anything will be regretted. I think you are trying too hard to wait for that prefect someone... and you maybe never find someone if you look at the everything from your perspective. There is a difference in loving someone for the moment and loving someone forever. The problem with having sex with someone you love at the moment is that "protection" is not 100% so what happens if you have a child with someone you thought you were in love with but later on realized that is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. The child has to suffer with parents who are not together. I know the same thing happens in divorce but most people have a few people in their lives who they feel, at the time, that they are in love with then later find out, it wasn't really love. I have a friend who thought she was in love, they had sex, then they broke up and guess what, she found out the next month she was pregnant. Now she is married (to a different guy) and although she loves her daughter she wishes she could have had her with her husband and not some guy she dated for awhile. Sex complicates relationships and it is harder to walk away from someone who you are sexually involved with so it is a huge decision and bringing a child into the picture makes it even harder. I'm not trying to say don't have sex, that is a decision you have to make for your self and it is none of my business. I just wanted to give you a thought from the other side of the spectrum.
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