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October 18, 2005, 9:43 pm PDT
 Quote From: seasalt Over the years I have found that the majority of people who make comments to me after discovering that I homeschool, go right for the socialization thing. Now, I don't know how much research this folks have done, but the family members who have made comments, including my Ph.D. brother, go right for the socialization thing and I KNOW that they have done no research, save perhaps reading an anti homeschooling article which they readily agree with without doing any 'research' of their own.
I agree with this writer that parents who struggle with the feeling of whether they can homeschool through high school will give up due to what you have said Dr. Phil, about socialization. Bottom line anyway when it comes to school is that we send our children there to be educated, not socialized. In addition to that, basically they are around those who are the same age as they are and I wonder how that develops their social skills? Further, in high school you have the seniors looking down on the juniors looking down on the sophmores looking down on the freshman, you have cliques, you have bullies, you have mockery and tripping and other assorted problems that rob many young people of the attention they need to get the education parents send their children to school for. If that is socialization, it is an unhealthy socialization. The socialization is what our children do when they interact with various factions of society, right, not just their friends? So that would be going to the mall with their friends, bowling, skating, out to eat, birthday parties, etc. It is hard for me to think of the movies as socialization since it is passive with no interaction that can be deemed socializing and some of the action that does go on is not conducive to healthy relationships. Another part of socialization is interacting with neighbors and others in the community. How does high school teach socialization anyway? I must jump in here in defense of Home Schools. I successfully taught my daughter from 6th grade through 12th at home. She didn't miss one thing on the socialization ladder. In fact, she was much better adjusted into the social life than some of her 'schooled' friends. I get rather bored with people who always come at you with the socialization thing. There is nothing to it. As a good parent, you see that your child becomes a social person outside of their academic life. They have friends through church, neighborhood children, family relationships with siblings and cousins, aunts and uncles plus the added benefit of grandparents. Undoubtedly my child had more experiences in social settings than most traditionally educated children. We visited museums, art galleries, concerts, shows, and political events. These were situations that she would not have attended had she been enrolled in the traditional school. I did not homeschool my child because of religious reasons, simply that there was too much *&()& innuendo in the schools that does not allow children to learn. I wanted more for her. So, I hope people will do more research when attempting to determine if home schooled children miss the socialization skills needed to live full lives. A very happy mother who has a well adjusted home schooled daughter! |
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