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September 16, 2008, 4:21 pm PDT
 Quote From: susu1958 I can totally relate to being involved with divorced parents. My parents divorced after 35 years of marriage. I have 4 siblings and I am in the middle. It was harder on me as I really tried hard to get along with both. I was living at home still and it was so difficult. My health started failing with very serious spine issues and at least my parents got to where they would talk. I loss my father to the battle of cancer in 2001 but I was glad that at least they were speaking to one another before he started his eternal life with God. I am excited about this book. I have not gotten it but will! The Seven Keys to Success -The Weight Loss Challenge guide me to losing 152 pounds and I was on Dr. Phil in 2005. I just had three critical spine surgeries and was so happy that I too thought I was going to be getting married after being divorced since 1989! Well, my engagement resolved without any communication. I am praying that it will work out. He will no longer respond but on the last communication he said that he would never want to work it out. Hopefully, at the least we can me dear friends as he was so good to me. I do want to have that someone special and deserve it! Again, look forward to the new book. Hang in there! SUSU My parents seperated a few days after Thanksgiving. (25 years of marriage.) My mom came back from visiting some friends, and informed my father and I that she was leaving. She needed to find herself. We waited a year for her to ask to come home and work things out with my father, she didn't want to go to a marriage therapist, or get any kind of help to put the marriage together. Finally my father said he had enough and he's done and filed for divorce.
During that time frame, I went through depression. I broke out into anxiety attacks. During all these emotional roller coasters, I was going to college full time and working part time. I was doing my best to give my dad emotional support at this time too.
The best support I got during this time was co-workers, my now husband, and my grandparents. I still don't understand how my mother could say she needed to find herself, when in fact she's in the same position she was when she left my father. She won't go to college to better herself, she won't get a job, she's always got excuses after another why she can't find a job. She lives with her boyfriend, who pays for everything for her.
I still wish I could understand why their marriage didn't work out. Which I know why in some ways why it didn't work out. But in all. I just wish they could be civil to each other, I wish they could talk without my mother trying to flirt with my father. My father is remarried and my mom does this right in front of his new wife.
The divorce threw me into so many loops. I felt why the hell should I get married if my parents couldn't make it. I could no longer trust my mom, I mean she left for a selfish reason, so why should I trust her. I felt betrayed. I am still in some ways going through the emotions, and I still battle inward with myself and what marriage means to me. I have promiesed myself I will do my upmost to make sure my son doesn't go through this. |
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