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December 21, 2008, 9:27 am PST
Get medical help if you are that unhappy
Quote From: cprimmerI know how loss feels. Although I divorced my husband and didn't loose him through death I was 26 years old with 3 children under 4 to raise. It was very difficult and although I did remarry that too went the way of divorce but like I always told my children more so as a reminder to myself life is not fair you just have to get used to it. It was and is a day to day struggle but I feel that's the key. To not look too far into the future. When you do that it gets daunting. For me I had to tell myself every day and still do for most days that I am walking and breathing that's something, my children are here with me and are healthy that's something too. I think sometimes that people(myself included) try to Leap out of the hole maybe we should just try and crawl out a little at a time. I'm no expert and what works for some may not work for others but I found for myself that keeping track of the positives instead of the negatives helped me. Keep your chin up!!!! You are absolutely right. I think one thing people should know is that some people need a little help getting their brain boosted for positive thoughts. I am a neuroscientist and I suffer from depression. I lost my husband following hiring his lover into our same department, and have nearly lost my faculty position through a collaborative effort by my exhusband and chairman to drive me out. I have developed nerves of steel and am still working but it has been very difficult. On top of this, I have one son with a serious neuropsychological disorder that has been exacerbated by the divorce, his dad's abnormal fathering behavior and an ineffective school system. I know that some people don't like to pop pills, but the brain needs certain chemicals to function and antidepressants, antianxiety drugs, sleeping pills, and other medications can help you get through the tough times successfully until you can develop the psychological strategies to deal with the tragedies of life. So if you are not living a content life for long periods of time, you should definitely go see a psychiatrist. It does not mean you are crazy. These are doctors that prescribe medicine to get your brain chemistry balanced. It is not a stigma and you would be surprised at how many people these days need to see a psychiatrist.
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