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September 14, 2008, 7:54 am PDT
09/15 Money Matters: Surviving the Crisis
Quote From: carolejaneYes, God bless you for helping to pay your grandson's day care bill and I do understand how it is for us Grandparents to watch our kids crash and burn. That's another part of why we went into a hole. We helped our kids dig out of problems when we ourselves needed things. My daughters are usually pretty good but they've hit some difficult bumps in the road. My husband and I not only are raising our 11 year old Grand daughter but we day care our 3 year old grandson. My husband stays home with him while I work my part time job. Day care is so expensive now. I have finally put boundries on my kids and said that they need to pay off what they borrow and now we're at the end of our rope, we can do NO more. I've had to draw the line. We too, have given our kids money to avoid collection or keep something from being shut off. I would never have dreamed of asking my folks or in-laws for money. Found out recently that our son in law has literally drained him widowed mother's savings dry. Not for neccesities, but for personal "needs" like golf or clothes. She won't tell him no. He now sells insurance but has no money to pay for leads, so he isn't really working. His job is 100% commision. My husband at 50, has the body of a 70 yr old, full of arthritis from years of hard work. We can't afford to keep bailing them out because we don't know how long he will be able to continue working. I would rather buy my gransons shoes and clothes than give their parents money, at least I know that it's going where it is needed. Our daughter works an evening shift so that we can watch the boys, and she doesn't have to pay for daycare. She stays with us most of the week because they live 1/2 hr from here and she can't afford the gas to go back and forth. This has led to problems because he doesn't understand why she stays here. Their marriage is rocky, and this isn't helping.
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