Quote From: srbluvslabI see absolutely nothing wrong with asking about past relationships. I would hope that a spouse would be honest and forthcoming with this type of information. It is especially important in today's day and age to discuss these things. Sexual history is important to determining the risk to health of a spouse and any children.
Why would he lie about this relationship? I knew a couple once. The guy had dated a girl that his SO didn't like at all. She told him before and while they were married that if she found out he had slept with this person that they were through. He lied to her the whole time they dated and were married because of this. Is there anything like that here?
Personally I would want to know this information so I don't think it is wrong to ask.
The only thing, I can figure out, is that he is embarrassed about having sex with her. I think she has a bad reputation now, but he said, when he met her she did'nt have a reputation, but he did'nt know her that well. He had just moved here, and had a few friend, from this bar where she works. I guess, she went home with him a few times. He said, he only took her out once, and then knew they had nothing in common. But still, I just feel weird now, being around this person, when we go out. We live in a small community, and this is about the only place to go local. I felt betrayed, that they both had this dirty little secret, and I knew nothing, the wife. We just got married, but it hurts that he did not tell me about this when we dated. He told me he had nothing to do with her, while we dated. He is a very sweet genuine guy, I love him very much. I feel this has hurt our relationship with trust. I am worried he will not be honest in the future either. But he wants to move past this, and so do I. But it is still there. Thanks for your advice!
