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Thanks for replying.

So when you say (regarding the bachelor party) I should let him have his one day...do you mean I should expect him to go out and do wrong for one day because he has never cheated or given me a reason to suspect before. It's not that I don't trust him, I don't trust his friends. The best man to be has openly admitted to paying strippers for sex and when my man gets drunk I don't want him to be cohersed into something. I do believe that people make mistakes they can't necessarily control when they have alcohol in their systemes. HOWEVER, I belive that you shouldn't put yourself in a sticky situation to begin with (i.e. if you are going to drink all night long at your bachelor party you shouldnt be going to a strip club where u could potentially use bad judgement)

Having a girls night out seems like a good idea if he is going to have a bachelor party...but I have lived alone since my freshmen year in college and I literally have no girls that I hang out with. My only friends are guys and that wouldnt look good for a bachelorette party.

I admire you for being able to overlook when your husband looks at porn but if you are right there then it really amazes me how the thought of him wishing that you look like the women in those pictures doesnt cross your mind. A guy wouldnt look at ugly porn...right?? He only looks at porn that he lusts after and secretly wishes he could be, otherwise he wouldnt look at it at all. I can honestly say without a doubt that I do not look at other guys and lust after them or check them out in any way. For some reason I've never been one of the girls who say " wow, he's cute" exc...

Regarding the cosmetic surgery...I know that some ppl get addicted but I really do believe that if I could just get my nose and boobs fixed that I would idealistic in my mind and then ultimately look like the girls that he wishes he could be with. I know that sounds bizarre but thats my rationality with it.