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September 18, 2008, 9:29 am PDT

You "get" it!

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One of the most difficult things in my life was accepting I was ABUSED mentally by my Mother and using the experience to make sure I learned to LIKE MYSELF so my FUTURE would not make me have a chip on my shoulder. After my Mother passed away I began to realize I was a GOOD PERSON even though my Mother told me differently. It was difficult at first but I somehow did it. I guess I finally got the chance to PROVE to myself I was worth something. I took each day to rediscover that a POSITIVE ATTITUDE would bring about new friends who would ACCEPT ME for who I was without me having to talk about my past. I made sure all the NEGATIVE in my life would not ruin my FUTURE. As an only child with no family to depend on I only wanted to be a BETTER PERSON than my Mother was. ABUSE can ruin your life only if you let it. LOVE YOURSELF!

You are truly an angel with good tidings for all!

 

Here's to your journey on the upward spiral.

 
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September 18, 2008, 11:12 pm PDT

I remember an incident with a young boy,

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One of the most difficult things in my life was accepting I was ABUSED mentally by my Mother and using the experience to make sure I learned to LIKE MYSELF so my FUTURE would not make me have a chip on my shoulder. After my Mother passed away I began to realize I was a GOOD PERSON even though my Mother told me differently. It was difficult at first but I somehow did it. I guess I finally got the chance to PROVE to myself I was worth something. I took each day to rediscover that a POSITIVE ATTITUDE would bring about new friends who would ACCEPT ME for who I was without me having to talk about my past. I made sure all the NEGATIVE in my life would not ruin my FUTURE. As an only child with no family to depend on I only wanted to be a BETTER PERSON than my Mother was. ABUSE can ruin your life only if you let it. LOVE YOURSELF!

he still slept in his mother's bed, I think he was 2 or something, & was not allowed to eat meat etc. & was allowed to do anything he wanted.  But had to be supervised all the time.

 

The could be thought of as abuse.  The lack of balance - I think that's what upsets children.  And is abusive.  And I think that kids with these types of problems often behave very spoilt, hyperactive and can't get any help, despite being and doing things that should help.  His mother has created an environment to take out the things she thinks is bad, by reducing chemicals & bad influences, but how this is done without it being in the schools, is not fair.

 

Schools need to have very healthy choices.  Saying that mentally one can live with one's differences - may be a matter much harder to address than doing good things that address the real concerns.  I think that thinks are linked but are not necessarily connected.  That other causes are much more likely.  Such as hyperactivity or aggression.  So that children don't feel they are abused, different & deprived, almost irrationally later, don't need labels that really reflect the flaws in thinking rather than actual disabilities or differences. 

 

Because what they have is not what everyone else is like - children may be suffering things not usual for that age.  Might be clingy etc. and imbalanced.

 

It just opens your eyes as to how not being accepted can happen. 

 

 

 
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September 18, 2008, 11:48 pm PDT

Dream interpretation -

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One of the most difficult things in my life was accepting I was ABUSED mentally by my Mother and using the experience to make sure I learned to LIKE MYSELF so my FUTURE would not make me have a chip on my shoulder. After my Mother passed away I began to realize I was a GOOD PERSON even though my Mother told me differently. It was difficult at first but I somehow did it. I guess I finally got the chance to PROVE to myself I was worth something. I took each day to rediscover that a POSITIVE ATTITUDE would bring about new friends who would ACCEPT ME for who I was without me having to talk about my past. I made sure all the NEGATIVE in my life would not ruin my FUTURE. As an only child with no family to depend on I only wanted to be a BETTER PERSON than my Mother was. ABUSE can ruin your life only if you let it. LOVE YOURSELF!

I think that done the right way, can make one more positive.  Imagine seeing really bad things & one would lose confidence in the world.  Our dreams often are bad things that don't make any sense.  A dream interpreter can show how things things are valuable. This was a tip on a morning show, ie. If one dreams something frequently, that event happened the day or two before the dream.  And began at the beginning of these dreams.

 

Your lack of acceptance would be in your dreams. 

 
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September 19, 2008, 9:29 am PDT

How true!!

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One of the most difficult things in my life was accepting I was ABUSED mentally by my Mother and using the experience to make sure I learned to LIKE MYSELF so my FUTURE would not make me have a chip on my shoulder. After my Mother passed away I began to realize I was a GOOD PERSON even though my Mother told me differently. It was difficult at first but I somehow did it. I guess I finally got the chance to PROVE to myself I was worth something. I took each day to rediscover that a POSITIVE ATTITUDE would bring about new friends who would ACCEPT ME for who I was without me having to talk about my past. I made sure all the NEGATIVE in my life would not ruin my FUTURE. As an only child with no family to depend on I only wanted to be a BETTER PERSON than my Mother was. ABUSE can ruin your life only if you let it. LOVE YOURSELF!
I grew up with the words STUPID, etc.  I worked hard the past few years to deal / address the words that still kept me living in child mode.  My mother is still living .. and now, I am so much better at controlling my life. She still tries to show me up .. but I'm much stronger at asking her why?  It's just her habit, one that she has been repeating since she was a child and it was done to her. 

I'm so proud of you for stepping outside your comfort zone and stepping up and making yourself first!  It was hard and very very painful ...  yet you did it. 
 


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