Replies to '12/22 Parents Falsely Accused'

Yes, accidents do happen in cars.  But they also happen everywhere else.  As a mother of 3, I have to use common sense.  Sometimes I think it is more dangerous to take the kids out of the car than leave them in.

 

I leave my kids in the car while I put gas in it.  I think it is more dangerous to take them out than leave them in.  When my oldest 2 were little, they didn't have credit card swipers and you had to go in to pay.  I always took my kids in but hated having to go through the busy parking lot holding one and holding the hand of the other.  I don't think I've ever seen any parent take an infant out of the car and hold them while putting gas in the car.  The fumes alone are probably more harmful than the potential risk of them staying in the car while I fill it with gas. 

 

With 3 kids, you have to think, where is the greater risk.  Can I watch all 3 while I do this.  On a cool day, is it safer to have them confined in the car than near traffic while I am standing nearby?  What about changing a tire on the side of the road?  Parents make judgements all the time.  We can't universally say that leaving kids in the car is wrong.  I do think heat is a great danger and am always aware of it.   With 3 kids, I have had to juggle the needs of all 3 and where is a child safer.  Strapped in a carseat while I change a diaper of another in the back of the car or next to me in a parking lot while my hands are full?  Where is the line?  When I put my shopping cart back, is it safer to walk 3 kids with me 30 yards through the parking lot or have them confined to their seats? 

 

Any parent who says they never leave a child alone must have a very difficult life.  My children sleep in another room.  They go to the bathroom by themselves.  I do household tasks without keeping my eyes on them 100% of the time.  I cook dinner and think it is more dangerous to have an infant by my feet while cooking than have them in a playpen nearby.  Even as infants, children are not watched constantly.  Parents have to use their best judgement.  Yes, accidents do happen in cars.  They also happen in homes.  I have injured myself twice tripping on the stairs - should we outlaw stairs?  Life is not safe.  We can't legislate our lives in the what ifs.......  Educating teenagers with basic parenting rules would be much more productive.

 

 

 I agree and not just the purse snatchers but the parents that are abusing and neglecting there children. I have DSS in my life now call DCYF. My husband attacked me and I fought back and my 16yr old daughter stepped in and got a scratch, I called 911 to have him and his mother removed from my house and little did I know how the tables would turn and it came down on me and I got abuse and neglect because my husband and his mother got to the police before they came in and they told them lies so I was guilty before I could even have a chance. Who is not going to listen to a 65 year old telling them somthing. I took it and have been dealing with it since. I have not spoken to my mother in law since last feb and I am working on forgiving my husband it has not been easy. We have a  person that comes in twice a week to work with my family in the home and the DSS worker comes once a month to check on my children to make sure they are ok. It is demeaning and feels terrible to have this happen but I am dealing with it and feel that when I can I will fight the charges in court. I am not a neglector or a abuser and yes there was a fight but all I did was protect myself like I have always been told to do when someone attacks you. Anyway I have found out so much in the laws that protect these children and how easy it is for them to go and say what ever they want and you will be investigated. My daughter has done this again to me because I laid down the law and told her she could not go out, Well she went out anyway and then prceeded to go and tell the police lies because she knew she was in trouble and I got investigated again and thank god there were no findings but it could of turned out differently. Thank God it didnt.