Quote From: jaimie1974I agree (with the other poster) that your boyfriend should have a bachelor party if that is what he wants- but he should WANT to talk to you about it beforehand, and to attempt to put your mind at ease regarding the events that will take place. From what you describe, there is probably nothing that he can say or do that will actually put your mind at ease, since you admit that you are jealous of strippers he might encounter. (But, he should still try!) Then, it is up to you. It is all in your hands to decide if you can accept the promises he makes to you to be faithful. If this party will make him happy, just remember that he will be coming home to you a happy man.
A committed relationship will have many compromises and this is a situation that you have to compromise with him over. Of course it is understandable that you worry he will cheat; but if he is the stand-up kind of man that you believe he is, then he isnt going to do that. No amount of alcohol can make a man cheat unless he has that intention in the first place.
I think she should also have a bachlerotte party where there are male strippers and hookers. The only way to know if you can remain faithful would be under those circumstances. I believe these parties are made so that the almost married, will get a last hurrah with someone other then their spouses since they will only have each other for the rest of their lives. This is the last sex with someone else. I believe protection must be performed since now there will be other people to be concerned with. Once the party is done, so is the sex, then marriage and committment are the deal.
If one thinks about it, why would people need strippers and hookers at a party that wasn't going to include sex? I think she has every right to be concerned, especially since this is what typically goes on. I think they need to give eachother permission to have sex that one nite only, if that is what they want. But I don't think either one needs to discuss it in detail......just know it happened, and move on.
