Quote From: flmarijanePlease help me. I am the single mom of a 17 year old girl. The first week of summer a boy down the street came to the house and started talking to her. He told her he was 19, I felt like he was a little too old for her, but she really liked him and all they were doing was talking in the yard at my house or his parents. To make a long story short he isn't 19, he's 23! My 25 year old son found out and went to his parents home and told them to keep this man away from his sister!! My daughter was heart broken, didn't eat or sleep for days. Mad at me, mad at her brother, and mad at the world. He soon disappeared from his parents home and she convinced herself he was living in a box somewhere. This went on for 2 months, Wednesday night on a routine walk she ran into him. He was doing a neighbors yard, he no longer lives with his parents but has moved in with a friend and his mom. There is a reason men aren't suppose to be with young girls, my daughter is so hungry for the attention of the man she won't listen to me anymore. He said things to her a boy can't equal. He made a few attempts to kiss her in the past and always wanted to hug her. The kissing never happened but recently she confided in me she wishes it had.This is a girl I have had no trouble with in the past. At this very moment I don't even know where she is...but I have a good guess. What do I do? This man is not a good influence. Did I add she is a virgin and he isn't. He has no job and gets high....I am so inexperienced in anything like this. Do I just listen to her when she wants to talk but not inter fear? I'm afraid if I stop her, I'll lose her!!!
There's so much to say to you to try to help you out,so ill explain as well as i can. You said that you've never had trouble with your 17 year old daughter, But its probably because she's never got caught.Im 18 years old with a 4 month old baby girl,and i decided to get pregnant to get away from my mom.The reason for that was because she would always be telling me,"get away from him" He's not the one for you."(etc). well She kicked me out, when she found out i was pregnant.Now that im a parent, I do realize that my mom was right, to not have kids because it takes you away from your life and its now hard to go to college and everything,My life was all planned out.But you see you have to learn from your mistakes,and it seems that thats how everyone learns these days.I always told myself." No-one can stop me from the one I love."Nothing will get in my way to see the one I love".So nothing stopped me.Now that im here, its tough.If my mom would of let me see the one that i love,i would have not planned to have a child.Im not trying to compare my problems to yours,But my point is,is that If my mom would have never told me to stay away from the one i love,it would have never pushed me to get pregnant.So now heres my advice.You said that you dont know where she is at the very moment.But try to get this guy out of her mind,Let her friends come and stay.if she dosent have a car tell her "hey,do you want me to take your friends to the movies,ill give everyone a ride".Then when shes out in public without him, she'll start recognizing other guys,and maybe start talking to someone else.If my mom would have offered more i would of had fun with my friends, instead of always thinking,"im going to sneak out tonight to go see him".Do what you can to get him out of her mind.But trust me grounding her, or bringing him up,might make her even more mad,and trust me,It'll push her to do something very stupid.I went through it all,now i have a precious baby girl,But i wish i would have waited.So i do wish i listened to my mom,but then it also made me so mad,that i didnt want to listen to her at all,because i was in "love".
