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October 19, 2005, 12:26 pm PDT
good for you
Quote From: buffhunterI guess I should start by saying that I am an 18 yr old college student who shouldnt be looking to settle down with a serious relationship but I am. My last boyfriend, 22, was one of the best guys that I have ever dated. He was a complete sweetheart and I am still in love with him. We broke up because with him being older and more experienced with relationships, he wanted sex. Well I am waiting until marriage. I told him from the beginning that I was waiting until marriage because I believe that is the best gift I can ever give my husband. He told me that he could wait until marriage to have sex, he told me that he was willing to do that. However, that was ultimately what broke us up. We never really had arguments about anything except for sex. I realize that it can be addicting but at the same time, I dont see why my love and my company cannot be enough for now. We are talking about getting back together again because we both miss one another and spending time together. I am worried that we will break up again because my beliefs about sex have not changed. Is there anybody out there who can give me some advice? My ex told me that if I could find some kind of 12-step program to make him not crave and want sex so much that he would do it so that we could be together. Someone..plz help me out.   It is nice to know that you have a strong head on your shoulders. Most would give in and fall for their lines. I am glad you are smarter than that. If he loves you, he needs to be with you...the person you are. And right now that is a "sexless" person. Cuddling, kissing and love is enough for a young relationship to last. And if he is not willing to accept that, move on! He is young and thinks life is not the same without it. BUT sex is nothing compared to a loving relationship. You have been upfront with him, so he has no reason to keep going back and forth. You can't let him keep doing that either. Either he is happy with who you are or not?
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