Quote From: amurphyI would like to know why a 29 yr old guy would tell a girl he loves her, makes her believe they are to get married, treats her like gold, they move in together, then have sex and then tells his friends she is a slut after they have sex (even though it didn't happen until they knew each other for a while - it wasn't the first date or anything) and that he is trying to get rid of her and she thinks they are going to get married and that she is ugly even though he told her she's beautiful ????
This happened to a friend of mine. We all thought he was a great guy - until she overheard him talking about her like that. He even told his family this and now the sister in law is calling her a slut and won't even let her husband be alone with her in the same room.
My friend is not a slut. She was in a 4-1/2 yr relationship before this guy and that's it. She even told him she takes sex seriously. Why would he go around saying stuff like that about her?
Anyhow, he did start treating her badly after they had sex. Why?
i have come up with many different reasons why hw would come out and do this after a four and half year relationship": 1. he may have gotten sick of her and by the only way he may try getting rid of her is by being mean and spreading those rumors and being abusive.
2. the sex was probaly not what he wanted and she was asking too much of him.
3. he may have heard rumors and trully believes . them.
my thought is that she needs to sit down with him and talk to him, tryand figure things out. and if at the end of that coversation there is no possiblitly that he is going to change what he thinks of her now and he doesnt want to be with her. thank its " adios " to that relationship. and its tiem for her to move on.
