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October 19, 2005, 4:10 pm PDT
Thank you
Quote From: ritehereAnd so are you. Again, listen to what you are saying. You said "I know he is to blame for this." He did not try to do something about his bad marriage. They may have been going downhill for years, and yes, they are both at fault. But you DO NOT bring in an outsider (you) in a short term attempt to make yourself feel better.
This is what he did. He didn't get a divorce AND THEN start seeing you. He just went right out and started an affair with you, telling you he intended to leave her. You are both victims of his inexcusable selfishness and inablility to make a decision. I repeat, do you REALLY want this kind of spineless fool to dictate your happiness?
Take yourself out of his life until he cleans up his prior mess. If he never does, then you know that he never did intend to. Stop being the victim and be the hammer. I appreciate what you're saying, I really do but I am so mad. I am hurt and discouraged and I cannot believe this is my life. Anyone who knows me would be shocked that I am in this situation. This is not who I am and it's very frustrating that I am now in the midst of such heartbreak. I am so angry that I just want to call her and tell her even more about the affair. I'm not sure what that would solve but I have moments of such anger towards both of them. I know I am the outsider but for over seven months the sun would rise and set on me in his eyes and now he just wants to go back to his other life. I am not a whore. It is not fair. I know some may say that this is my punishment for coveting another woman's man. I am suffering over this. This is by far the worst pain I've ever felt. I've yelled at him. I've yelled at her and I cannot seem to get on with my life. It's been two days since I've spoken to him or e-mailed with him. He is getting on with his life and seeing if it'll work with her and the kids. I wonder if it'll work or if she'll just turn around once she realizes that I'm out of the picture and tell him to buzz off.
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