Replies to '06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"'

  Well, here I sit at home, watching Dr. Phil....and todays show is something I can relate to. I am 19 years old and about 5 years ago, my father told me that he and my mother were going to get divorced.  We were the church going, happy, picture perfect family. At first, my dad never gave us (myself and 2 other siblings) a reason as to why they had decided to separate. However, 3 months later my dad came back home and told us. It was because he's gay. Now this was a complete shock for us kids, we had no idea. My mother on the other hand, knew for quite a few years, probably 3 years after they were married (they were married for 18 years total) but they had gone to therapists and psychologists, and tried to work through this. My dad never wanted to be gay. He wanted the wife and kids and a normal life. So he pretended and ignored his "nature" for the better part of his life. Growing up, he had never engaged in homosexual activities but said he knew he was gay ever since he hit puberty. Today, my father is happy, he's himself. And thats what counts. I'm happy for him and his partner because they're happy and no longer feel ashamed or something because homosexuality isn't the norm. 

    I couldn't imagine pretending for so many years and living a lie, just to please society and everyone else but myself. Ultimately only YOU are going to live your life, so live it on purpose and live it to the max, its up to you whether you make it a happy one or not! I don't think being gay is a "choice". Nor do I think its a "birth defect" or something like that. Its just the way some people are. You are who you are, so live it and love it. 

    Thats just my 2 cents... 

  Well, here I sit at home, watching Dr. Phil....and todays show is something I can relate to. I am 19 years old and about 5 years ago, my father told me that he and my mother were going to get divorced.  We were the church going, happy, picture perfect family. At first, my dad never gave us (myself and 2 other siblings) a reason as to why they had decided to separate. However, 3 months later my dad came back home and told us. It was because he's gay. Now this was a complete shock for us kids, we had no idea. My mother on the other hand, knew for quite a few years, probably 3 years after they were married (they were married for 18 years total) but they had gone to therapists and psychologists, and tried to work through this. My dad never wanted to be gay. He wanted the wife and kids and a normal life. So he pretended and ignored his "nature" for the better part of his life. Growing up, he had never engaged in homosexual activities but said he knew he was gay ever since he hit puberty. Today, my father is happy, he's himself. And thats what counts. I'm happy for him and his partner because they're happy and no longer feel ashamed or something because homosexuality isn't the norm. 

    I couldn't imagine pretending for so many years and living a lie, just to please society and everyone else but myself. Ultimately only YOU are going to live your life, so live it on purpose and live it to the max, its up to you whether you make it a happy one or not! I don't think being gay is a "choice". Nor do I think its a "birth defect" or something like that. Its just the way some people are. You are who you are, so live it and love it. 

    Thats just my 2 cents... 

  Well, here I sit at home, watching Dr. Phil....and todays show is something I can relate to. I am 19 years old and about 5 years ago, my father told me that he and my mother were going to get divorced.  We were the church going, happy, picture perfect family. At first, my dad never gave us (myself and 2 other siblings) a reason as to why they had decided to separate. However, 3 months later my dad came back home and told us. It was because he's gay. Now this was a complete shock for us kids, we had no idea. My mother on the other hand, knew for quite a few years, probably 3 years after they were married (they were married for 18 years total) but they had gone to therapists and psychologists, and tried to work through this. My dad never wanted to be gay. He wanted the wife and kids and a normal life. So he pretended and ignored his "nature" for the better part of his life. Growing up, he had never engaged in homosexual activities but said he knew he was gay ever since he hit puberty. Today, my father is happy, he's himself. And thats what counts. I'm happy for him and his partner because they're happy and no longer feel ashamed or something because homosexuality isn't the norm. 

    I couldn't imagine pretending for so many years and living a lie, just to please society and everyone else but myself. Ultimately only YOU are going to live your life, so live it on purpose and live it to the max, its up to you whether you make it a happy one or not! I don't think being gay is a "choice". Nor do I think its a "birth defect" or something like that. Its just the way some people are. You are who you are, so live it and love it. 

    Thats just my 2 cents...