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September 25, 2008, 6:03 am PDT

09/24 The Locator: Reunion Aftermath

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 I watched todays show and find it intersting considering my father went through this and 3 weeks before he passed away he broke the news to my husband that he has a brother that his mom put up for adoption. My husband is 42 and finds out at the age of 38 who his father is (never met him) and finds out at the age of 40 he has a brother, I have done as much internet searching, and have gotten no where. His mother apparently has blocked this all out for she cannot remember if he was born in June or jly of 1967 or 1968. My question is.... How can a mother forget??? I can tell you every detail of my sons births and why would she hide this for so long? Please if anyone has any info  on how I woukd go about this please I need help.
 If you want to try and understand how a mother can forget read the book " The Girls Who went Away".  Then you might have some compassion for what she went through giving up a child.  Imagine just having given birth to your son and then not getting to hold him or possibly even see him and then decide if you would want to remember what happened and all the details.  Have you tried asking her about the experience without sitting in judgement on her, she just might be ready to or need to talk about her experience but remember this maybe the first time ever that she has talked about it and may not be able to or ready to talk about it all at once.
One place to start looking is the agency that handled the adoption.
 
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September 25, 2008, 8:20 pm PDT

09/24 The Locator: Reunion Aftermath

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 I watched todays show and find it intersting considering my father went through this and 3 weeks before he passed away he broke the news to my husband that he has a brother that his mom put up for adoption. My husband is 42 and finds out at the age of 38 who his father is (never met him) and finds out at the age of 40 he has a brother, I have done as much internet searching, and have gotten no where. His mother apparently has blocked this all out for she cannot remember if he was born in June or jly of 1967 or 1968. My question is.... How can a mother forget??? I can tell you every detail of my sons births and why would she hide this for so long? Please if anyone has any info  on how I woukd go about this please I need help.
Search their names in Ancestry.com.  Sometimes they have a free trial offer to get you started.  Also check out your library and see what free databases they offer for genealogy.  Here, we have free access to Ancestry.com but only in the library, not from home.  Genealogy sites can have alot of up to date info that you can get without paying for it.
 
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September 26, 2008, 6:39 am PDT

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Quote From: madonnie911

 I watched todays show and find it intersting considering my father went through this and 3 weeks before he passed away he broke the news to my husband that he has a brother that his mom put up for adoption. My husband is 42 and finds out at the age of 38 who his father is (never met him) and finds out at the age of 40 he has a brother, I have done as much internet searching, and have gotten no where. His mother apparently has blocked this all out for she cannot remember if he was born in June or jly of 1967 or 1968. My question is.... How can a mother forget??? I can tell you every detail of my sons births and why would she hide this for so long? Please if anyone has any info  on how I woukd go about this please I need help.
I understand 100% why you would ask how a mother could forget. I remember every single detail of my kids births...

I found my birth mother almost 3 years ago. She acted like she remembered every detail. She wants me to call her and do things for or with her, well this year she forgot my birthday completely. It was almost a month before she "remembered" I really think my half sister finally said something to her.

I was really kind of hurt by it, but in the end, it made me appreciate my PARENTS a whole lot more!
 
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