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October 19, 2005, 3:15 pm PDT
Without Any Friends
Quote From: ritehereYou don't expect much, so when your expectations are fulfilled, it underlines the negative messages you've been telling yourself. This sounds trite, I know, but sometimes when we don't care for ourselves too much, others pick up on that.
I would pick up a copy of Dr Phil's SELF MATTERS and read it, doing the inventories and answering the questions. I was overweight, pathetic and friendless at one time too, and I've changed. One of the things that helped me was to get in touch with my authentic self through this book. Maybe it will help you too.
BTW, your little girls will not inherit this from you, and it did not "rub off" on your husband. You didn't expect a reply, but I can't help it, I'm a busybody.
Take care of yourself. I am 25 years old and i live in Texas. I have also found it very hard to meet people. My husband and i have been going to church but everyone seems to be stuck up. I have been told all my life that im pretty but now that ive had kids im also overweight. My husband just ordered me a treadmill for my birthday so i hope to lose the weight because i feel so depressed being fat! I feel like people are sooo judgemental towards me just because im not skinny like them. Sometimes i cant wait to be skinny so i can tell them to go to hell. That sounds harsh but if they were really christians they would try to be at least a little friendly. It would be nice if they asked me to go walking with them or something instead they give me a fake smile. Its not in my head because i have good instincts and when someone is being snobby i know it! I also care about myself alot and i know that i need to try harder to lose weight and thats why i talked my husband into buying me the treadmill. But its hard to lose it when you stay at home with kids and dont have anything to do because you dont know anyone. My family lives over 2000 miles away and we are trying to move there but until then i need friends. If anyone wants to talk i am happy to talk to them!!!
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