Replies to '11/27 Extreme Moms'

AS I WAS GOING THROUGH THE SHOWS, I CLICKED ON THIS ONE THAT INTERESTED ME THE MOST. I CAME ACROSS YOUR MESSAGE AND AND COULDN'T BELIEVE IT WAS YOU TALKING ABOUT SUV'S AGAIN. WHAT'S WITH YOU
NOT LIKING PEOPLE WHO OWN THEM.
I DID ANSWER YOU BACK WHEN YOU
MADE THE COMMENT THAT I WAS MOCKING PEOPLE WHO READ
MY LIST OF" WHY PEOPLE ARE STRUGGLING" IN THIS FINANCIAL CRISIS.
YOU NEVER GOT
BACK TO ME. TAKE
THE TIME TO GO TO THE OTHER MESSAGEBOARD TO READ MY COMMENTS.
I WOULD LIKE TO
HEAR YOUR FEEDBACK!!!!!

I am sorry but I have to ask.  Were you being hypothetical in the third paragraph?  If so, it was a slightly unrealistic analogy.  What does the next mom buying a bigger SUV than the last have to do with being overprotective of your kids?  I find it hard to believe that an overprotective mom would actually run the risk of taking another child's life just so she can check up on her own without their knowledge.  I am a very literal person that's why I take your comments this way.  I'm not trying to be rude or derogatory, I'm just very literal and logical.  Anyway just curious!

 

I do, however agree with you in the second paragraph.  Parents who shield their kids too much so often times create a curiosity in them because they never were allowed to experience it on their own.  Thus, leaving the parents dumb-founded when they do find out. I'm not saying let your kids go out and experience drugs/alchol and become sexually active at an early age but don't smother them either because that is what will happen, eventually. I firmly believe children should be prepared instead of protected.  Protect them from child preditors? ABSOLUTELY!!!  But not from things for which they need to be preparred.  I find it hurts the child in the long run which, follows them into adulthood.  The reason I know this, I am that adult!  I was a child with special needs so, my parents felt they had to shield me from "the world".  I'm not griping, I have the best parents!  They were only doing what they thought was best for me at the time.  Anyway, even at 27 they are still in the habit of protecting me.  I will alway be enternally greatful to them but their comes a time when you have to take responsibility and do things one your own.  That's kind of where I feel they failed because they've always done everything for me.  Now, I haven't a clue how to make it on my own!

I believe that's just a cope out of not being an active parent. She [the guest] doesn't want her son to interfere with her schedule, so she "teaches her child to be independent." That is outrageous to me, especially at nine years of age. That is a great way to mask that parents actually don't want to parent. I find the root of one of the many difficulties that I face as a teacher is that parents allow their kids to experience adult situations, conversations, and responsibilities too soon. When they [children] come to school, they believe that they are awarded the same freedoms that their parents give them at home, and that is not the case. They have no idea of limitations and barriers; this makes it difficult for educators.
Izzy is not the norm. I truly believe "God watches the child that [has to] have his own." As long as the parent teaches them about rules, regulations, and procedures of the rest of the world, independence is great thing.
For the over baring parent, and I do apologize for the lack of a better phrase, lighten up.

We moved to the burbs about four years ago into a newly built home , a "community" , these people are horrifying .   They will send your child home in tears and let every other child on the block do the activity because their lil' BOBBY does'nt like your child that day??????   Parents belittling 5yr olds instead of telling their own sweetie pie to share and get along they kick the poor child out ??  In this community I will not gossip therefore they make things up about me .HOWEVER on the 4th of Sept it got MUCH WORSE than gossip.  My three year old is VERY SMART and we not only have our house child proofed but have had to put duck take on the door handles as well , as he figured those out in a short while.  He never got out though , well on that day he was sick and had gotten up at 1:00 am and had his dad and I up all night , fever bad cough etc.  he finally curled up and fell asleep in my bed in my arms and I fell asleep as well , I woke up about every 30 min just my mom meter to make sure all was well and he was still sound and in my arms.  The next thing I know their is a policeman at my door and my neighbor one door down told this officer that she did not know who's child was outside with a backpack on.  He wanted to take the bus to school like his big brothers and sister  and it was on this day that he finally got that door opened. They had been to bday parties at my home and vice versa here they are claiming to not know me or my son so intent on getting me in trouble as a bad parent because my son figured out the lock??? Why would anyone do such a hateful thing.  I ran to get my son and they had him in a dirty diaper with a rash that took three days to go away , they KNEW ME , (HE was only out for approx 15min as I looked at the clock at 10:30 and he was still with me and the officer came at approx 10:45or so . they could have at least brought him to me and let me change him if they cared so much .  They lied , I was called by a person from the Cfs I think it is , and I told them this was a one time thing and that I had NO OTHER issues ever and I have four children and a loving home and husband these woman just have nothing else to do.  So my advice is be very careful about a helicopter mom they just may think you are not helicopter enough and try to get you in trouble as a bad parent.  THANK GOD the rep from CFS put this down as unfounded and a neighborly dispute I am still in an utter panic every minute of every day that he may get out again if I am not right next to him , I cannot live like this it is ripping me up. I thank GOD in HEAVEN that he did not get hurt but these were women that  waved to me every  day ??  Why did they try to have one of my children taken and the embarrassment , I do alot of volunteering at my kids school , I am asst coach of my daughters cheerleading, learning karate with one of my sons etc .  What is this going to do to that if someone sees they had to check up on me as a parent who just let her three year old run around and did not care??  I wake up in the morning and cannot breathe and that is the problem with the way parents are parenting their own and YOUR children. Thanks for listening I 'm open to any suggestions on how to make sure they cannot lie and do this to anyone EVER again, the rep told me to get a lawyer and take it to court for harassment as they are now telling other neighbors they needed to teach me a lesson?? God forgive them .  Again thanks for listening.