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October 20, 2005, 8:43 am PDT
Avoid assumptions!
Quote From: jamietI am 25 years old and i live in Texas. I have also found it very hard to meet people. My husband and i have been going to church but everyone seems to be stuck up. I have been told all my life that im pretty but now that ive had kids im also overweight. My husband just ordered me a treadmill for my birthday so i hope to lose the weight because i feel so depressed being fat! I feel like people are sooo judgemental towards me just because im not skinny like them. Sometimes i cant wait to be skinny so i can tell them to go to hell. That sounds harsh but if they were really christians they would try to be at least a little friendly. It would be nice if they asked me to go walking with them or something instead they give me a fake smile. Its not in my head because i have good instincts and when someone is being snobby i know it! I also care about myself alot and i know that i need to try harder to lose weight and thats why i talked my husband into buying me the treadmill. But its hard to lose it when you stay at home with kids and dont have anything to do because you dont know anyone. My family lives over 2000 miles away and we are trying to move there but until then i need friends. If anyone wants to talk i am happy to talk to them!!! I've been on the recieving end of faulty assumptions before, and I've also had faulty assumptions about others. You know what they say about assumptions!
Is it possible you are highly judgmental of yourself, and therefore see judgement in everybody else towards you? Not everybody at church can be skinny, this is the US for cryin' out loud! (Sad but true...)
You should look up the weight loss buddies in your area site, I bet there's one where you live. You would have lots of company with others that have the same goals as you right away. You might even make some very good lasting friends there.
Don't set yourself up for failure by putting your weight loss success in the hands of others. By this I mean your statements of wanting to be skinny so you can tell them to go to hell. Percieved control over the emotions of others is not going to get you there. Neither will the idea that you're doing this for your husband or kids. Your reasons have to be for yourself, your mobility, your health, and your effectiveness in the world.
Good luck.
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