Replies to '12/26 "Brainwashed by My Parents"'

I too have 2 step sons and have went through the same thing. The oldest son have come around the older he gets, the youngest is a different story. His mother is teaching him that the only thing that his father and I are good for is to buy him things. She also tapes his telephone calls and has told him things like " If he left her to stay with us she would be heartbroken" . We even went to court only to be told that it would be "better for the child to stay with his mother". Even after we showed the court system in Maine that the child was being left alone and was falling behind in school.The relationship between my husband and the youngest son is stressed to say the least. They did talk almost everyday, now they may talk once or twice a month.

It's sad when a father and son can't have a relationship and that when one parent does ask for help the system fails.

My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. For the first year of our marriage, his ex-wife was always in our business. She would call him at least 5 times a day for absolutely no reason. They have 2 children. One was actually my husbands child from a previous relationship in which his ex-wife adopted her and then they have one child together. She is constantly bad mouthing my husband in front of the kids. The day after we got married, she got on the phone with my mother-in-law, my husbands work, etc. It has been a nightmare! She tells him when he can have the kids and will not allow any additional time for vacations, etc. She is seriously psycho! She tells them that he's an alcoholic-he doens't even drink, tells them he's a child trapped in a mans body, he's worthless, he's addicted to women, we just got married so that I wouldn't leave him, etc. She stalks him AND me. It's seriously CRAZY! He filed a motion with the court a year ago to get his kids more as we live out in the country and they each have their own room, etc. She refused to let us have any time with the kids other than every other weekend. Not one more hour, not one more day, nothing. She told him that if he wanted more time with them that he could come take them out to dinner once in awhile. His teenage daughter is too far gone- the brainwashing that she has entailed will forever damage her and his son, well he's mentally not all with it. She looks for things and ways for him to be sick. It's to the point that every time we see or talk to him, there's something else wrong with him. It's so sad! Well, after a year of battling back and forth with her and the strain she has placed on our marriage, my husband just threw in the towel and gave up. She is a control freak, apparently always has been and she is seriously SICK in the head. He has told her very simple that she is not to call him or contact him ever unless one of his kids are in the ER or he will file a restraining order against her. These 2 kids are unfortunately going to have to live with what she has done to them. I'm very sad for them. She is a classic case for PAS. I strongly believe that people suffer from this "syndrome" and I strongly agree that it should be addressed in courts. This is a REAL issue that people all over the country suffer with. My heart goes out to anyone and everyone that has been affected by this and I think it's about damn time that someone steps up and does something to STOP and PREVENT this from damaging any more children.

Sick of PAS- Wisconsin