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September 27, 2008, 11:09 pm PDT

10/02 Stressed Out to the Max

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If you can work part time you can work full time, go get a job and earn a living and stop asking the state to take care of you, if you haven't notice we can't take care of you we don't want to take care of you we want you to take care of yourself as many do.

get a full time job and start paying for your own way and see if you feel better, you are worring that if the state turns you down you are that much farther in the hole, you are the only one that can change your worries.

maybe she hurts too much to work full time. Have you ever though of that? Don't be so quick to judge. I have back problems and Fibromyalgia and CANNOT do physical labor. I am in school for business. I have to take pain pills. Stress causes pain. I can handle it though. When I'm done with school, I will have a DESK JOB.
My son, being preemie is still on SSI/SSD and if it wasn't for that, I couldn't pay my portion of the household bills. Yes my boyfriend lives here and yes SSI knows...but since we both share the expenses, and we are not married, it is still ok. I want to work part time...but I am scared to death that I will flunk out of school which is an accelerated program. I have so much extra homework outside of full time school...I have no time for work yet.; not that I could find a job in the first place. That is why I'm in school.
Until you walk in her life, don't bash on her. Some people NEED the help.

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September 28, 2008, 9:22 pm PDT

You need to step up and help yourself 1st

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If you can work part time you can work full time, go get a job and earn a living and stop asking the state to take care of you, if you haven't notice we can't take care of you we don't want to take care of you we want you to take care of yourself as many do.

get a full time job and start paying for your own way and see if you feel better, you are worring that if the state turns you down you are that much farther in the hole, you are the only one that can change your worries.

I cant believe what I am reading! First and for most you need to take care of yourself and your family if your not willing to help yourself and try there isn't going to be anyone willing to help you.

I have 4 bulging and 2 herniated disks in my back and neck I also have nerve damage to the left side of my body from a near fatal car accident I was in , in Dec 1999. I also gave birth to my premature daughter at 24 weeks she was 2 lbs. By the grace of god we made it through that. I have always been a single parent I have never got child support for my child nor have I ever received any kind of welfare . I have always worked and i have always made sure that my daughter was taken care of and that we had all we needed . I have worked all kinds of jobs from cleaning houses to bar tending. I do what ever it takes to make sure that we have what we need and i have never asked for hand outs .

I know what pain is i am in it everyday of my life and i deal with it. My doctor told me after the accident happened that i should file for SSD because he felt I wasn't able to work any longer . I was 20 and i had a baby to take care of . I couldn't give up and do that . OMG ....... I guess what it all boils down to is if you have any pride at all and you truly love your kids and family you will do whatever it takes . I'm a very prideful person and i wouldn't allow myself to go down that path and allow my daughter to live like that in low income housing or in some cockroach motel apartment building or a run down dump. I think more of myself and my daughter and my family than to do that or live that way. So get a grip and go out and find another job and work. If you can work part time you can work full time and you will make more money working full time than what your going to get on SSD/ or SSI and your family wont be going with out and your kids will respect you more for doing what it takes and enduring the pain so that they can have and they aren't going with out . Think of your kids. WHEN you hurt think about your kids and why you push yourself to do what you do. Do it for them ..........

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October 2, 2008, 5:13 pm PDT

10/02 Stressed Out to the Max

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If you can work part time you can work full time, go get a job and earn a living and stop asking the state to take care of you, if you haven't notice we can't take care of you we don't want to take care of you we want you to take care of yourself as many do.

get a full time job and start paying for your own way and see if you feel better, you are worring that if the state turns you down you are that much farther in the hole, you are the only one that can change your worries.

You need to work. I also have a couple of conditions that I could probably try to collect SS on but I wont. If you think you are depressed now you will only feel worse not working. Unless your condition requires you to be bed ridden, which it does not since you are working, then you have no right to ask me to pay for you to stay home. Quit feeling sorry for yourself!

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October 5, 2008, 3:19 pm PDT

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If you can work part time you can work full time, go get a job and earn a living and stop asking the state to take care of you, if you haven't notice we can't take care of you we don't want to take care of you we want you to take care of yourself as many do.

get a full time job and start paying for your own way and see if you feel better, you are worring that if the state turns you down you are that much farther in the hole, you are the only one that can change your worries.

Quite honestly it is a bit too much more me. If I heard correct the woman on the show was making 150,000 a year.   Better yet she made this money by being involved in the corrupt mortgage industry.   Yet someone how despite making in 1 year, what would take me over 5 years to make (this is including currently working two jobs) she now expects my tax payer dollars to bail her out. As for the food banks in my area I am starting to get really fed up with them because they only want donations of things that I can't even always afford to buy for myself in order to make sure I keep enough saving to keep up my own financial stability.   But back to the lady on the show when I see someone who made lots of money and made it in ways that were bad and took down the economy and prevent me from being a legitimate homeowner(because housing prices soared), I feel that if 150,000 a year wasn't enough to put money in the bank for savings, then why should I feel sorry for you. In fact, I feel like you got what you deserved.

As for people who are seriously disabled I do believe the government should provide basic needs for them such as shelter, food, and medical services/medicine, but the government should provide the service and not just give them money.

As for Lucy I don't want to judge, but there are actually jobs out there that you can do even if injured.   Answering Services and places that do surveys by the telephone are almost always looking for people. In fact, some of these places will even let you work mainly from home. Additionally, I understand that you are having neck and back pain but there are things that you can do to often help improve these conditions. You said that you have been gaining weight and this will only make these conditions worse.   Take control of your nutrition and if you don't already start exercising(get your physicians approval first), especially stretching and especially stretching the piriformis (you should be able to google search this).   You may also want to try yoga, tai chi, or chi gong (not as familar w/this one but heard its good).   Of course I will add in the mandatory check with your physician before you start any of this.

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October 6, 2008, 5:30 pm PDT

Not Necessarily True!

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If you can work part time you can work full time, go get a job and earn a living and stop asking the state to take care of you, if you haven't notice we can't take care of you we don't want to take care of you we want you to take care of yourself as many do.

get a full time job and start paying for your own way and see if you feel better, you are worring that if the state turns you down you are that much farther in the hole, you are the only one that can change your worries.

Do you know what this woman's current health issues are? Have you seen her MRI and CAT scans? If not, then you cannot pass judgment. I myself had to go on SSD, and it's not an as road. First of all having to realize that you can no longer work is hard to adjust to, and makes you feel like S!it! Also, when you are applying for SSD they have very specific rules that you must abide by. I wasn't even able to work part time. If I hadn't had my husbands income, what would I have done? I would have been homeless, no food, no medical, nothing. I really don't know how other people handle waiting for SSD in the meantime, because it can take a VERY long time to get. Just be very, very, happy that you haven't found yourself in this position, and I hope you and others never do. Maybe it's time that we as a people learned a bit more compassion for others.

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October 9, 2008, 7:07 am PDT

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If you can work part time you can work full time, go get a job and earn a living and stop asking the state to take care of you, if you haven't notice we can't take care of you we don't want to take care of you we want you to take care of yourself as many do.

get a full time job and start paying for your own way and see if you feel better, you are worring that if the state turns you down you are that much farther in the hole, you are the only one that can change your worries.

If the person above has two adult children in their 30's then that would make her in at least her 50's she has explained that she has tried to pull herself up by the bootstraps and take care of things, she also suffers from a BP disorder, can she work? Probably for brief periods of time. You better hope that you never get into a situation where you have to depend on others for help because you will be the one to fall apart its funny how people that have never been in a situation can so boldly give advice.

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