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September 28, 2008, 8:56 am PDT

not your right

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DOES ANYONE AGREE THAT THIS WOMAN'S BEHAVIOR IS A FORM OF ABUSE?

well this is the point, YOU , dont know the child or the mom yet you are outraged at her actions, I would guess the situation would depend on the two people in guestion and the time in training for this journey, In some parts of the world children do not have parents by this age and are left to fend for themselves. At some point you may need to get off your pedistool and look at the reality!! This parent feels her son needs to learn how to do certain things to survive and honestly You do not get to judge her reasoning, if you wanna help go after the pedifiles not the MOMS.

Thanks for reminding us how limited in mind some people are in this country!

 
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September 28, 2008, 1:58 pm PDT

09/29 Extreme Moms

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DOES ANYONE AGREE THAT THIS WOMAN'S BEHAVIOR IS A FORM OF ABUSE?
If something had happened to the 9 year old and the mother had admitted that she was trying to teach him to be independent, then this situation might have been viewed differently (by the police,etc...) I wouldn't say it's a form of abuse. But, it's not quite the way I parented. When my kids were that age, and I knew a parent let thier kids have what I would consider "too much unsupervised freedom", I wouldn't have let my kids spend the night, or maybe even go to thier houses. I would have been leery of that. When my kids were elementary and middle school age, I had to know the parents fairly well. By the time they got to high school they were old enough, IMO, to make better judgements than when they were younger. I was fortunate and they DID make good choices. It's not that I chose thier friends when they were younger, I was just picky about where they spent time away from home. I don't think as a mother you ever stop worrying about them as long as they or you, have a pulse. But there just comes a time when you have to begin to let go and eventually let completely go. My kids are now almost 22 and almost 27. And I still worry, but I have completely let go. They make thier own decisions and I give them advice when they ask for it.
 

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September 29, 2008, 9:05 am PDT

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DOES ANYONE AGREE THAT THIS WOMAN'S BEHAVIOR IS A FORM OF ABUSE?

No. And neither did Dr. Phil and he obviously understands a little something about child development. Are you a doctor?   

 

You do not know either the city or her child - the mother does.  Nine is old enough for some children to make their way on public transport - even in a big city - if they have been taught how be safe.  And he knew the subway system because his mother had spent time taking him on trips and making him comfortable and familiar with it. 

 

When I was 9 I was walking a mile to school alone and walking back alone.  When I was 8 I was riding my bike or walking to the local 7-11 or Thrifty to get candy or ice cream in the summer.  We played outdoors in the empty fields and creeks, built tree forts and (gasp!) cross streets alone.  We did our own laundry at that age, and knew how to cook simple things.  But our mother had spent years covering these bases before letting us do it ourselves - walking these routes with her so we knew how to cross streets, how to use the stove safely, etc.  We learned to handle ourselves bit by bit.  I'm sure she worried - she's a major worrier.  But she let us stretch our wings.    I suppose now that you will decide that my mother was a child abuser, too.

 


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