Replies to '11/27 Extreme Moms'

Okay, leaving your 9 yr old alone in NY? are you kidding me?!? There are 13 yr olds who have been kidnapped! I sometimes wonder if I am walking the edge- I let my 7&5 yr olds walk to and  from school together (1/2 mile).

However, I also have a mother who is a total helicopter, I love her and she is truly great, but definitely a helicopter!  My little sister has always been a good kid, advanced placement classes in high school, plays in several school sports, dance team and rodeo, was actively involved in our church's activities and community service activities.. My mother has always hoovered- "Well, when are you going to get your homework done... If you don't leave now you are going to be late, shouldn't you get some riding in..." It NEVER stopped- my mom never let my sister be the one who was ultimately responsible for practically ANYTHING, she would just lecture and scold, she would even wake my sister up two or three times in the morning- ridiculous!!! 

When it came time for my sister to go to college- my mom threw such a fit that she successfully kept my sister from going to any but the very closest community college- but still she would call constantly, show up with groceries scolding my sister about how she needed to get her oil changed, asking why she had friends over so late, she needed to make arrangements for health care, asking weather or not my sister had been to church.

Finally my sister came to my mom and told her that she was moving across the country (literally) in two weeks to live her a boyfriend (who treats her badly and is controlling). It knocked the wind out of all of us.

Everyone craves control in their own lives, when their needs for control over their own lives are not met- they go to extremes!