Quote From: ashleamulli have been separated for four months now my husband moved 3 hours away
and has not come one time to see our two children he also has not paid
any child support he does call about three times a week actually i
call him so the kids can talk and he answers about three times a week
but he always promises them he will call or says hell do his best to
come see them but he never does they are 6 and 3 and don't understand
this sometimes i think it would be better for them if i just quit
calling and quit answering if he ever called but at the same time they
love him to death and i know he loves them i have child support
enforcement looking for him to pay his child support but they can not
find him i just don't know what is better for the kids to keep getting
hurt because he doesn't live up to his end or for me to just cut him
off I'm not worried about the money i sure could use it but i am more
worried about my kids having their father he used to be such a great
dad always playing and reading to them now he is virtually non existent
i just dont know what to do
Its confusing that you say you call him but Child Support cant find him....are you telling them everything? If he doesnt want to participate in the childrens lives then there is nothing that you can do for him. Worry about doing for your kids. You can comfort and care for your children just as you always have. Dont say anything negative about DAD and reassure your kids that DADDY loves them. Put pictures in their room of DAD. Make your and their lives as normal functioning as possible so that they know they can count on you. You dont know what the future holds but no matter what you still have your kids. Dont play the games of not answering the phone if he calls or cutting him off. Life goes on if he doesnt follow through so if he doesnt follow through, and your kids get hurt, then replace it with something positive. Dont wollow in the hurt with them, teach them to get through it. Have a back up plan if he doesnt follow through.
