Quote From: slharmsI became divorced from my ex-wife when my oldest son was 7 years old. Now, ten years later, our relationship is pretty much empty. He acts like I'm a ghost, as if I were not there. He dosen't call me, and can't even come over to me when I attend his HS games, to say hello, or thanks for coming out. This attitude has been going on now for 1.5 years. Question: whats all this about ?? I can't get anyone to talk to me about it.
He's a typical teenager who has reached the stage where "parents don't exist" or "I don't need/have parents". Teenagers go thru stages where they don't want to be around their parents. I did it! I was preoccupied with my friends and trying to make my own life. I didn't want to hear my parents lecture me, tell me what to do. I wasn't into drinking or drugs. My parents and I are now the best of friends!!
Can you engage in any activities with him? Shoot some pool, watch a movie, take him and a few friends out to dinner etc... and find out what his personality is like to see if it is truly something personal towards you?
How often were you involved with him until this point? You mention you go to his games, but was this how the relationship was from the beginning with him?
Kids -especially boys - don't make a point to call their parents. Are you kidding? They forget to mention when they are going to be home let alone to say hi, how are you and let me hear about the people at your work?
I don't know how close the two of you were through out the years but several of my friends have talked about this attitude as the child gets closer to being independant.
