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WELL WELL WELL HAVE A KNOW IT ALL ...IT MAY NOT BE  A SYNDROME ......BUT IT IS ALIENATION!

GO FIGURE ONE TINY WORD CAN  MAKE  A _SS OUT OF PEOPLE.....YA   ONLY IF THEY WOULD STOP LOOK AND LISTEN....

I watched the show and was taken back by the resistance the female lawyer and female guest were putting up about how they believed that PAS was a bunch of crap.  Well, it is true and real....the problem is the female lawyer knows she has had a lot of clients that have been using dirty tactics to win custody.

I am a retired military man that gave up a great career in CID in the military; world travel for myself and my family, great benefits and I always went to my wife to pick my next assignment to accommodate her wants and needs and for the children's needs. Well, long story short, I was at the end of my career and she decided to threaten me with divorce if I stayed in and took one more overseas assignment; She said what is more important; my military career or the family.  She knew my weakness was my girls and her.....I reluctantly took an early retirement and got out and started working with a professional company.  It was not even two months and I came home and the house was stripped clean, bank accounts were stripped and to top it off my car had been taken from the parking lot; I thought she had a girlfriend drop her off and gotten the other car and would pick me up that night.  What I discovered when one of my co-workers volunteered to drop me off was a shock that the house was stripped, accounts stripped and a note where the refrigerator was saying she was gone and would contact me when she wanted to talk.
I woke up the next day after sleeping on the floor that night to be served by local law enforcement a false protective order...she didn't even show up and the judge(male) was furious about the false lies that she used to keep the kids away; but he only threatened her attorney and the protective hearing was over; she was never punished and to make matters worst, her attorney brought that up to raise doubt in the child custody hearing.
She was smart to set this up to win custody, because she was SCHOOLED by the system and her attorney, friends and other females at the school she taught at....that's right this woman is a school teacher at an elementary school.
This all happened so fast, I didn't have time to even think straight.  The night before she and I had the best sex in a long time and then she was telling me how much she was lucky to have me as a husband and then she was gone.  I found out by the neighbors she had been sneaking around with a boyfriend during the summers when I would go to work.  When she left she even went to a shelter; not in our town but up in Plano(was told by another hispanic female,police officer how to do the staging to win custody; the 7 year old daughter was singing like a bird on our first visitation how she was molested by a older boy while in the shelter; she said mom had lied to the shelter people that she was looking for a job(she is a full time teacher) and needed to leave to look for work; when actually she was meeting up with boyfriend and using the shelter as a baby sitting/court pawn to do her dirty work. She left the girls with a complete stranger and her son who molested our daugher, I was furous and in Court I brought this out and her lawyer was able to down play it and minimize everything, except anything dealing with me; the Dallas County Courts were a joke and when I brought in a fathers for equal rights guy, that was like a big no no back then; they hated those guys.

As a career military  Criminal Investigator, I proved that she was less than honest on all aspects and she even wanted 50% my miiitary retirement; one problem, you have to be married day for day ten years or more; and because she got me to retire in Dallas texas(my last command) she was 8 days short of being eligible for any of my retirement and after the judge had figured out her game and her attorney's game and he denied her any of my benefits. Thank God the judge had enough integrity and sense to see through the game.

She has been beating me up ever since with the kids! She continues to leave messages that she will eventually get my benefits.

Fast forward now, I have had a hard time through the years(since 96) even getting my visitition; she has masterfully kept them involved with activities on my weekends, allowed them to stay with school friends and strangers homes to block my visitatiion.  Her excuse is that was what the girls wanted to do and she was their best friend!  She lied to the schools in her district that the kids didn't feel comfortable with me coming up and eating with them.  She blocked me out of records by lying to doctors, counselors. I was seeing a former co worker/friend when we were on the family advocacy board together in the military base and he had warned me that I was going to have a hard time with the court system in Dallas County, female counselors she was getting, and the school system she was employeed at; because like the female lawyer and the female guest they would close ranks to back up another woman; even if she is wrong. 

Most of my encounters where with PRO female or gay judges,lawyers,nut case counselors and teaching faculty, she was surrounding herself around. They didn't know me or any thing about my relationship with my daughers but they were quick to follow her marching orders!

I have since been able to develop a relationship with oldest daughter who I pay for her college(I promised to do that 13 years ago in orginal divorce). She is slowly learning that I'm not the bad guy and even wants to take the international vacations that I have offered for her and her sister for years. She has her apartment, but mom pays some things like electric, water and now her mom is trying to block her from going with me on vacation.  The girl is almost 21 and she still is conflicted on what to do. SAD.  The youngest wouldn't return any calls on her cell phone, wouldn't come over and she tells her sister she doesn't want nothing to do with me until her college bill is due.  She is a senior and was 4 years old when we divorced.  Mom has worked really hard to alienate her.  My oldest daughter confied in me that her mother had told this horrendous lie about me and my brothers and sisters were molested by my father and not to trust me. The truth is, my dad never did that and it was HER that was molested by family members other hispanic men when she was a little girl.  When we were married; about 3 years into it, I found out that she had been molestated by a school janator, and or relatives.  I didn't know about her drug or sex problem, because she had hide that part of her life and it didn't come out until the problems started with her wanting to settle down.  When I met her she was a first year school teacher and seemed normal. It wasn't until her born again christian brother told me about the family secrets while I was going through the divorce.
PAS is real and the sad thing is the girls will be the ones that will suffer!  Everyone around them and their mother telling them that it is just part of life or oh well, that's divorce; men are men garbage.
This has been a painful life without my daughers and I had one joy is the oldest came and brought a picture on Christmas eve and it was a picture that she had of me laying on a sofa and she was two years old sleeping on my chest.  I could feel that she was emotional about it.  I thought my Ex had thrown all the pictures away of me and the children and videos, because at the orginal court I requested the pictures of the birthing room, and other pictures and she told the court she didn't know what happened with them when she stripped the house out.
She has messed these girls up and they don't know if they are coming or going.