Quote From: studmixerI am very sorry to hear about the horrible things that have happened to your daughter and your grandchildren, I truly am. And by the sounds of it, this man, weather gay or straight, doesn't have a very good moral fiber. It isn't the fact that he is coming to truth with himself or not. It is the fact of weather or not he is a decent human being at all, straight or gay. If he were just having an affair with another woman and tried throwing your daughter out of the house and doing the same exact things he is, would that make it any less painful? Would he be a better person because it was with a woman that he layed with rather then a man while being married? His morals are what is in question in this case, not his sexuality. Don't you????
I agree with your assessment Mixer; although I would like to point out a couple differences. Its true that someone finding out about a heterosexual affair will sting just as much as finding out about a homosexual one. One difference is that the residual disappointment and hurt of the homo-affair discovery will have the gross knowledge attached to it that maybe that persons entire marriage was a sham.
When discovering a hetero affair, there is still the knowlege that at one point, the couple (probably)did have an honest, true intimacy. In discovering that your spouse is homosexual, a person must face that every wink, every bit of loving-making, every nuance of intimacy between them was lacking for his/her partner. Double-up the devastation when its discovered that the homosexual partner was too fearful or weak to admit his true nature and as a result took many good years away from the straight partner who could've developed a beautiful HONEST relationship with a person who is TRULY intimately connected to them.
Its one thing for a marriage to break down when both partners are/were committed to it. Its an other thing entirely when one of the partners wasn't real about it in the first place.
