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Replies to '10/02 Stressed Out to the Max'
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October 4, 2008, 9:30 am PDT
 Quote From: acamp922 One thing I have learned throughout all of my issues with people, within myself, and with all I have gone through and seen, that every single thing happens for a reason and you just have to have faith that you will get through it. God never throws anything at us that we cant handle. He knows our strengths, weaknesses, and how far it is to our breaking points. You probably read my story and 2 years ago, there is NO WAY I could have handled all of this. I would have probably done some irrational, stupid stuff to ruin my life. But God gradually put me through things that would make me stronger over time. He was preparing me for this summer specifically. I have gone through what you were just saying. Not to that extent with a boyfriend but I did have a very controlling one for 2 1/2 years. Most of my high school life. One thing you must remember is IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. I have been conditioned by nearly everyone in my life to think its my fault for everything that happens. My mom and dad got divorced and could never agree on anything because of me... so I thought that was my fault. My mom couldnt afford a lot being a single parent so I thought that was my fault. My boyfriend made me feel like everything was my fault. My mom always blames me for everything. And now I have an AMAZING boyfriend and my conditioned behavior is carrying over into our relationship and I am having to get used to being treated right. I have been conditioned for so long to think that being treated wrong by everyone is how it is supposed to be that I have to get used to the good stuff. How crazy is that?!
Girl you will be fine. Have faith and pray it up!!! Once you give ALL of your problems to God, it is such a relief. We arent capable of handling all of life's curveballs, it is impossible! You are gonna be fine though. I have faith in you ;) I do agree with the saying that God never gives us more than we can handle. Sometimes we need to back up and understand what he is really trying to tell us. I am going through my own stresses. I am married to a man that has more than 1 addiction and there is no marriage. To me we act like friends. There is nothing in our marriage right now that would constitute marriage other than the paper. I know its not as stressful as some I have read on here. We do have our own things. Being in a happy home would be awesome. I can't wait ! I know I need to get out, and am working on how to do that. And when. My heart goes out to all that are hurting. Its great that we have a show like Dr. Phil puts on to help people. Some days I don't know where to turn, or what to do for sure. I have come a ways though, and I look forward to getting the rest of the way there. People need to get healthy themselves before we can help anybody else. I hope everybody has a great day and work hard towards goals and lean on the word of God. Peaches |
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