Quote From: colecarter It used to hurt when my girls would come home from there dads and tell me all the things he had said about me and our marriage. I could not defend myself against it, would not. I will not share my side of the story with them until they are much older! They are too young to hear about the physical and emotional abuse that went on! They do not remember and I will not share! Yes, I broke up our family. He is right about that. He fails to tell them that the final straw was watching my seven year old slide across the carpet on her knees and forhead because he shoved her. I have been listening to how wonderful dad is for years, and I couldn't say a thing! Dad has a better house a better car, everything is better. Of course it is, he is an NBC news anchor and I sell real estate.(you can imagine how well that is going) But we have a home now, filled with love and respect. Someday they will realize that. Someday may be sooner than I think. After an argument with her father, my fourteen year old wanted to say to him that she understood why mom left. And I couldn't say a thing.
I wish only taht you could share who the anchor is. I know for myself I will not be giving NBC my viewing times nor will I be giving their advertisers my hard earned money. You are right in that it is hard when your children come home from seeing dad, you tell them you don't know why dad does this or that, but he loves them.
I only console myself with this simple statement from my best friend and I hope you read this OP:
He hates you more than he loves them.
This is so simple yet it says volumes.
I also refuse to not answer my child's questions regarding certain situations. If she asks why dad yells and screams at me, why dad calls me bad names, I will tell her that he is not making solid decisions and that those behaviors are abusive behaviors. Is this alienation? If you listen to the father's rights groups it is. I prefer to call it teaching my child to recognize abuse so she can avoid it. I hope you one day will be able to teach your chidlren the same thing.
