Replies to '12/26 "Brainwashed by My Parents"'

Quote From: kellyjean70

I moved out here to Texas in Novenber of 1997, with my now, husband. I had been  beaten severly by someone i slightly knew. He kidnapped me & my girls at a friends apt. & took us to the lake where he beat me almost to death....he stalked me, came by & pointed guns at me in front of people. So to make a long story short, i took my girls to  friends i had known for 15 years, & trusted them to care for them while i got back on my feet. My friend got sick & let 1 of my daughters go to her dad's , whom she didn't even know, & my sister got 1 of them, my baby girl went to another friend....all separated.....which i never wanted to happen.....my ex (who was in prison at the time) had his wife go to my sisters & ask if she could take her to the zoo, & never brought her back. Now my ex's have custody of my daughters, & i've seen them off & on but they refuse to call me mama, or listen to the TRUTH about really made me make the choice to leave them behind. They treat me horribly! They say the meanest things to me & are very rude & disrespectful. When no one is looking though, they'll hug me & tell me they love me......then if i try to see them, they yell at me & their dad causes a big scene & threatens to call the police.Our girls don't remember being kidnapped or going through everything, except what their dad's put in their heads, & it's making it so hard on us all because we can;t begin the healing process living like this.....I want more than anything to "visit" them "legally" without all the chaos that is caused by dad's & my past (according to them & the  stories they've heard)Please tell me what i should do to begin this "Process" of healing & getting the truth out  about why i did what i did & why i haven't been in their lives more Dr. Phil. I agree that "Brainwashing" of a child is very harmful in so many ways & it is very confusing to the child when they love both parents , but are afraid to tell them or show it for fear of "getting in trouble" or causing problems. My ex's wife doesn't even know that i've been seeing my girls for the last 6 years Dr. Phil! I mean, this guy is a professional CONMAN. He's spent 90% of his life in prison & all of a sudden he & my other ex are "Fathers of thyear" & i'm a "piece of crap"....Please help us all work this out & learn to get along? Thank you for taking the time to read this & i anxiously await your reply! Sincerely, Kelly Weger