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October 5, 2008, 10:54 am PDT
I know how it feels...
Quote From: robertesmithhello i watched todays show and would like some advise. i am currently involved in a custody visitation case in court. i have been talking and expressing myself about this same thing to my mother for about 5 years. the thing is this subject is often the topic of convo. i never heard of this before but it is to the t exactly what happens. the father always has to fight ,at least in ohio, to be in the childs life. the court appoints the female counsle. its called csea. my issue is not with them rather legislatation that automaticly gives full rights to the mother. i have wrote the legislaters in ohio columbus and no response.this is where i need help.what needs to happen for the court to relize the proplem giving full power of choice to the mother with no regaurds for the father causes. it should be handled more responsably. as the father i have no rights having been told by cps "you are only the father". if his mom doesnt want me in his life he is not allowed. i am not the only father going through this same thing.so what do we as a society do.i also think that this is more common in a marriage less relationship. so in clossing i need help could some one contact me with advise on making rights for fathers more relavent. for the record i believemy child and i are prime canidates for being victomized by brainwashing from his mother and many of her relatives I'm sorry I am unable to offer any advise on making a fathers rights more relavent, but my fiance and I do understand what your going through. My fiance has to constantly fight with the courts, social servises, and lawyers to get anything done with his son. We had a visitation order set but the bio mother still with holds the child, bribes him to stay with her on our weekends, and etc etc etc. We have followed the roller coaster of emotions that come with the child. The bio mother use to tell the child that his dad and I didn't love him, we didn't want to have visits with him, and that we just plain hated him. I'm so thankful that the child didn't turn on us but we did have a lot of problems to work through. The child seems to be so much better about blowing off what his mother tells him and how things actually are at our house. There are still side affects though and it shows in his self esteem and self worth. We believe some of the brainwashing still might be going on but we think we have brought the child to a level where he can fight it off. Just keep your head up about your child and situation. Its a tough road but if being done for your child's sake, its 100% worth it!!!!
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