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December 26, 2008, 3:15 pm PST
 Quote From: nana212 Bitter Fifteen years ago, my daughter went through much the same as you have been going through. When my ex-son-in-law was doing and saying all the bad things about my daughter, we tried not to say things in front of the two kids about how we felt about him. I know there were harsh words said from time to time and I apologized to the kids for saying them. I also spent many hours praying for forgiveness for the things I thought about the man.
To make a long story shorter, I was finally able to tell my son-in-law that if he didn't stop saying the things he was saying and doing to my daughter that the day would come when the kids would realize what he had done and would probably hate him for it.
Well, my grandson is 21 now and is completely alienated from his father. He says he will never speak to him or respect him again. My granddaughter is 18 and now lives with her mother and doesn't have anything to do with her father either. When asked, both children say that their father is a liar and they will never forgive him. I pray that isn't so, because they need their father, even if they don't know it now.
Nana 212 Hello,
As a loving father to my to sons with your story a lot of people is getting a half story. Even with you trying to shorten your story. I am going to tell you a summarized story and you will no if it fitted you or your husband.
My story starts when my son was born. I was 18 not knowing everthing about life, especially meeting his mom who was 3 years older than me at the time. I was a young man who just graduated from High School who was excited by dating an older girl. Well after 3 months dating she became pregnant with my son. Of course I was shocked but never once denied him like other guys have. I was proud of a baby being born, but I wasn't so proud of our relationship. And I told her I will take care of child, but we won't be together as a couple. So from day one of my son being born I had him daily feeding, cleaning and holding tell he was sleep. But I wanted to do more for him so I joined the Military so I know he would be totally cared for with more money and better doctor's help. But to really explain she never got over us not being together and once I entered the Military she started treating my side of the family bad. My sister who at the time didn't have no kids always tried to see my son on a daily basis and my mother used to be allowed to do things with him, but my son's mother put a stop to all that by moving from her residency to make sure my family didn't see my son. While serving in the war I never received a post card, letter or pictures of my son who I was thinking of constantly. Neither my mom or my sister could not update me about anything going on with my son due to his mom moving around enough even to elude my payments to take care of him. After 5 years has passed and returning from my Military work. I seen her and my son for the 2nd time after his birth month while getting on a city bus. And the 1st thing she said to my son looking at me with a strange look is "Lorenzo say hello to your father". |
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