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October 20, 2005, 4:20 am PDT
 Quote From: adawife I don't believe for one minute that they DID NOT have a choice. Of course they did. I don't understand why you would want to make excuses for them. They consciously made the decision to what they did. Sure some of them grew up in a bad environment but that can't be used as an excuse. There are countless numbers of people in this world who were victimized growing up but everyone of them don't turn into pedophiles, rapist, or murderers. We has humans have to make the choice to better ourselves. These people choose not too. I, like many other who post on this, could tell you some really awful stories from their childhood but that doesn't mean we were destined to turn into something bad. Ok maybe I said it to strongly indeed, but I want to say it isn't just black and white. The reason that others might not become a pedophile is that they get help but if you're abused by you're parents and you're in a lower class environment, and your IQ might not be very high that those factor's can contribute to becoming a pedophile. And that making a decision might not be very possible anymore.
Murderers mostly did indeed make that decision, but I know a kid who is being hit by his macho dad when he get's angry and he has a mother who says he didn't do nothing. The result is that he can only express anger by hitting and screaming and provoking. He was raised in an environment so that he now doesn't know what good is or how he should express his emotions. And you know if he doesn't come into contact with the police before the age of 15 I'll be surprised.
And for rapists well it could be that if you are said to on a daily basis you're bad, you're nothing you can't do anything (right) and stuff by you're parents and dirict family it could be that you want to prove them wrong and that you want to make a statement that you can do something wright. But at this point he can't think straight in terms of good or bad he will probably be on the verge of killing himself so he might go for rape murder because he can be in control, and thus can survive because he would otherwise kill himself.
And then you have personality disorders where you are wired so you will make bad decisions and you might not but a bad decision is then triggered by something.
And so there might be choiches and most victoms of o form abuse turn out to be very okay but the difference is that they had a loving environment to come home to, if you take that away there might be a lot less of a choiche. And no some will probably conciencly made the decision, but I just want to say that there are poeple who cannot help it all that much |
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