Replies to '06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"'

I was not saying that I was unhappy with the way that the first part of his life began I am glad that my parents met and fell in love with eachother because your right I wouldnt be here if they didnt but for you to say that I may be unhappy because my dad didnt try to fight it and go back to heterosexual is appauling.  And you are wrong because if it were the other way around I would be sad because he wouldnt be being true to himself.  Your also wrong because he was not heterosexual while they were married technically he was BORN gay and he was doing what was expected of him because back in the day homosexuality was not spoke of and just like the young man justin that was on the show he thought that the thoughts he was having was just a phase and that everyone had them.  You speak of homosexuality like its a disorder that you can work through.  ITS NOT A DISORDER it is who he is and what millions of others are.  You can not change this, you can tell people you have and make yourself on the outside be whatever you want it to be, but your heart and your brain can not lie.  These people are so brainwashed by these ex gay ministries that they are to scared to be who they really are, so just like that minister he just doesnt have sex with anyone and uses that as his scapegoat.  I would never want my parents to remain together because like I said it has made me and my brother and also my mother who we are today. And just so its clear the only two pains I ever experienced from the divorce was my fathers first break up with the man that was his second love after my mother whom he was with for 6 years.  Not everyone in the gay community practices promiscouity  like many believe.  I had to watch him go through the heartbreak of this because of how deep his love was.  The other pain is what I feel everyday when people hate homosexuals and when people think you can change it. That is like saying you can change your eyecolor; yes you can change it with contacts but that is only on the outside, underneath those contacts is the real color the real you. My father did have no choice in the matter of coming out with his homosexuality because that is who he ALWAYS was.  Don't feel badly for me I have had a wonderful happy life because my parents have always done everything right, they love eachother, they never fight(and never did), and they always tell the truth.  That is more than I can say for most "loving" whole familys that live under one roof nowadays.  I am feeling badly for you because after hearing Justin on the show you still don't believe that it is not a choice and it is something that cannot be changed.