Replies to '12/26 "Brainwashed by My Parents"'

Quote From: pasisreal

My husband and his four children have been the victims of PAS for the past 10 years.  His ex has worked diligently to destroy any feelings his children have for him, although my older children describe him as the type of father every child dreams of having.  He is loving, giving, pays large amounts of child support and alimony timely and contributes greatly to other needs of the children, he prioritizes them in his life, provides with with interesting life experiences, and is just all around wonderful as a father.   In return for this, he has suffered through false accusations of physical abuse to her during the marriage and to the children - including two that we have had to fight in court - both of which were dismissed.  His two oldest sons haven't been to our home in three years, and act as though they hate their father.  It is so very sad to see the way she manipulates and uses her own children as a weapon of revenge against their father.  She seems to act under the assumption that any love they may feel for their father takes away from the love they can feel for her - and as an extreme narcissist, she demands all of their love.  For the past 2.5 years we have been fighting a court battle to hold her in contempt for her actions.  We have been in court ordered counseling for the past year with the two younger girls, but the mother is still trying to sabotage that, and prevented the older boys from participating even against the judge's wishes.  We have our final court date coming up and pray something will be done to control her actions, or he will lose contact with his daughters as well.  These are sad, sick situations, with the alienator behaving much like a cult leader.  This subject definitely deserves more attention and one day will be treated in the courtroom like the child abuse it is.