Replies to '12/26 "Brainwashed by My Parents"'

I too share your pain!  MI doesn't care, they care about the $$$ they're raking in at our painful expense! I am a mom who fled state because of domestic violence in 2000.  Livingston County Court is assisting my ex in his campaign to alienate the children as I refuse back to move back there as I fear for my life!...........It happens to moms too!  They told me if I want a relationship with my kids, I need to move back to the state.  This was my home, where I was born!  My family, friends, roots are in MI....If I move back, they might as well write my obituary.....This man is out for blood.

I have had my fill of the justice system........there is no justice!  My kids cannot love me, visit me all because of an abuser......My children are not allowed to love me, call me, see me, share nothing with me..

I flew every 3-4 months since divorce in 2002 to see my kids & every time 99% I had to petition court to enforce!  April 2008 was my final time was phone conference......I have had it!  My kids lost!  I have worked 3 jobs just to fly & see my kids.......I pay child support & my income has decreased in the last 2 years & they raised it by a $100--------They know ex is alienating kids against me..........who do they strip? ME.......they do nothing to him for repeated violation of court order!

I provided court with my stay in domestic violence shelter, my medical chart noting that I talked to doc about ex-husbands violent tendencies, restraining order.......etc.........they suppressed/dismissed it.....didn't even take it into consideration..........also during divorce trial judge said she didn't care if some physical abuse was proven or not, she was not going to uproot the children........she looked very sturn at me & I quote: " Don't make me have to choose"  She has retired...........

Stayed in state for almost 6 weeks last year as I pushed to have psychological evals......court appointed psychologist in Ann Arbor........Interviewed me for almost 4 1/2 hours of Q & A. I was very honest told him everything............interviewed my children for an hour, interviewed my ex for approximately 2 hours..........suspected ex to have alienated children in past but found no proof it exhists now however behavior of children contradicts his findings,  charged me $600 cash total up front & he made his recommendations to strip/limit my contact with children even though he found me to be a fit parent!  Hmmmmmmmmmm...........I represented myself in court for the past 4 years, spent countless of $$$$$$, It is a long & painful nightmare........to be stripped & told that if my husband was not in picture, I wouldnt be going through this.......I told the mediator I am done, I am not going through this anymore.........mediator did interview children & even put in his report that ex went home & told kids that I lied in court!  However, suspended my CA visitation indefinitely based on PACK OF LIES AGAINST MY HUSBAND.............when all the other tricks didn't work including phony police report of my husband grabbing my son, letter from my kids addressed to the court on how they do not want to see me etc.......the list goes on.........ex refusing me contact with my kids in front of mediator & GAL in court last year?????? Need I say more about MI court system!  I have all the proof & would gladly share my story with Dr. Phil! 

This just does not happen to Dads.......it happens to moms too!  I was a stay at home mom, a prisoner in my own home.......also, I have an older son whom this man abused, my son is now 18 & he remembers everything..........btw.......my family, my son has no contact with my 2 other children unless I am with them.......they are not allowed to call or have any contact, not by any order, by the captor!  I have addressed this many times in court, they do nothing..........my childrens relationship was severed...I admit my mistakes, I married an abuser.........I did what I thought was right, to get far away.....I am paying the consequences.  Also, my children have only called me once in 8 years & that happened this past Mother's Day of 2008 after I called my daughter & she called me back within 15 minutes.  My children are 14 & 11 & are being alienated...........also ex was involved with his former babysitter/girlfriend, moved her into our home & within 3 months she moved out as he was starting to abuse her.  My former neighbor moved her out after he left for work!  I moved out while he was at work too!  Former neighbor told me this when I went to home to take pics of the 5 foot high tall grass he let grow around the house!  I was put in contact with former GF/Babysitter & she found the Lacasa card I left in bathroom cabinet!  

My kids are being held captive & dad is the captor!  My kids have not told me they loved me in 4 years, not in his presence, nor will they talk to me...

I feel your pain as a parent!  I have been on both sides......I did not have these issues with my first ex husband.........we remained friends & even wrote letter on my behalf.......

MI Courts do not care, they just want the $$$..........

Sincerely,

Heartbroken Mom Living IN CA