Quote From: summerjan5My 20 year old daughter has just announced that her and her boyfriend are going to be engaged.
My issues are:
1 - She has not received a ring as of yet, which she thinks she should help pay for!! I don't agree with this, if he wants to get married then he needs to pay for the ring. Old fashioned thinking, I don't know.
2 - After telling my niece, her friend later mentions she thought that he was gay. This concerns me because I don't want my daughter to be hurt. I have noticed that he is perhaps what might be considered "soft" some of his actions are feminine. We live in a very small city that is religious and there are no openingly gay men living here. His religion doesn't accept "gayness" at all. Is he marrying to discourage his true sexual feelings. They are practicing chasity or does he just not interest in having sex with a female? He has slept over on several occassions and intercourse has not taking place, though I don't know about touching. He is 23 how does he have that much self control to sleep with a female but not try anything. Help I don't know what to do??? I just don't want my daughter to be hurt.
Summerjan
You are right, he should pay for the ring! It should be a sacrafice on his part. After all, this is a token of his love for her, if he is not willing to do this...then......well...You said it's a small community, prayer for your daughter is the best and most important thing you can do for her, let God take care of the rest. Sometimes our children don't always do what is best for them, they are clouded by peer pressure and feelings that are not real. If you are a Christian you know that prayer can provide you will the answers that you need. Allow God to use you to speak to your daughter. Pray that if this is the boy for your daughter that God will open up doors and their relationship will flourish and if it's not he will open your daughters eyes up to see that.
I will pray for you and your daughter right now.
