Quote From: mhopefulI know of a man who has brought Thai women over to the USA and promised them all kinds of things including Green Cards, only to return them after Visa was up (2years). He used them for his purposes, and lonelyness. Well I meet one of his victims. When she told me he had lied to her about several things after marrying her, I couldnt allow him to get away with it. I gave him warning to take care of her, to not just use her for his slave or else I would turn him in. He then tried to keep me from talking with her, but that didnt work. She was trying to learn english, but since he couldnt understand her, he would tell her to just shut up. I meet with her several times, helped her speak and learn some of the American ways. She came to this country not knowing much, but was very eager to learn and loved the USA and freedom. I found her an attorney that would work on her behalf Pro Bono, but this women (young looking 40ty) was very afraid to do anything because she was so afraid and was hopeful she would get her Green Card, and this man would treat her better. After months of waiting for paper work I again threatened to turn him in if he did not get her the Green Card. He bought only used clothing for her, rarely let her buy her Thai food to cook at home, and didnt want her to talk to anyone unless he was present or knew them. When he realized I was not going away, he did get her work permit but she didnt know she needed a SSI# and tried to keep her from getting drivers license. After he put this off, I taught her to drive and went and got her SSI# and she passed her drivers license test, and took her to the Temple for the first time in USA (10months). She was so thankful and so happy until she got home to him. Now she has become stronger and is doing everything she can including playing along with his games to get her Green Card and interview which should have happened months ago. As of today she has not heard anything yet. This man paid her family money to marry her and made promises to them as well which have all been broken. This just doesnt happen to children but also older women. He has threatened to send her back several times and said if you turn me into immigrations I will tell them you were a prostitute and would be sent back. I told her the USA would protect her and an attorney would make sure she wouldnt have to return to Thailand unless she wanted to, and there have been many times she thought about returning, until I proved to her she could get SSI and License without him. She does not want to get this man in trouble, because she is thankful to be here in USA. She just wants to start work asap, to help herself and more importantly to send money back to her family. He has told her she can not work around any men, unless its taken care of old dying people, or cleaning their homes. This is slavery just in another way.
Here is one thing I think you fail to realize, your friend was using this man just as he used her. I'd bet that she didn't marry him for love or companionship. She knew she was being purchased when he paid her family to bring her here. What you didn't include were the options she may have had. Could she have said, no to this offer? What would have been the repercussions of such a refusal? Point blank, you can not even begin to compare what happened to your friend with what happens to these others that are completely clueless when they are kidnapped, raped, tortured nd sometimes even murdered.
Just playing Devil's Advocate.
You see, I work with Phillipino nurses that think it's funny that they've used American men to get a green card, get an education, leave these men, go back to the Phillipines to find real husbands, move them back to the USA, have children, and live the American dream. I've heard them joking about it on many occassions. Yes, these men are suckers, but two wrongs don't make a right and I don't see any honor between either side.
Just a thought.
