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October 12, 2008, 8:57 pm PDT
 Quote From: eddie3021 3 yrs. ago my 34 yr. old daughter attempted suicide & then again 2 yrs. later. Thank God she failed both times. One thing that we as a family did not have availabe was, (other then therapy) a place to go and talk about our feelings. To be able to share how we were feeling with other people that had gone through the same thing. After all this time, we as a family still have not healed completely. After my daughter's first attempt she still had custody of her 2 daughters. The second time her ex-husband took the girls from where they had been living. The year before he left my daughter and 2 grandaughters at a birthday party at my oldest daughters house and called later that day and said they could not go back to his mother's to live with him, he could live their but not my daughter or grandaughters (the girls were 4 & 5 yrs. old). 3 months later (after going to a marriage counselor) he told me daughter he did not want to be married anymore. To this day my heart still aches for her. For a while my other 3 daughters would have nothing to do with her. My youngest daughter still feels pretty much the same that she did then, I wanted to tell you my story so that maybe you can find a place that people can go and talk about their loved ones and how they as a family can deal with a suicide attempt.
Thank you. It makes me very sad to hear about your daughter and granddaughters. We have one daughter in college and I can only try and imagine how horrible it must be to have a child so hopeless that she/he feels this is the only thing left. One thing I can't understand is how her sisters could do ANYTHING BUT help her. Nothing my Sisters could do would ever cause me not to love them and try to help them. Maybe YOU could start a support group in your area. Just run an ad in the local paper and see if there are others who need the same type of support. There is really only one person who can truly give her hope and that is God. I pray that her heart will find hope again and she will realize that if a man would do this to his wife and children, is he really worth very much? Not really. Hopefully, one day she will realize that she and her children are worth fighting for and she will not stay at a "pity party", but will pick herself up and have a wonderful life. God Bless. |
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October 23, 2008, 7:08 am PDT
Quote From: eddie3021 3 yrs. ago my 34 yr. old daughter attempted suicide & then again 2 yrs. later. Thank God she failed both times. One thing that we as a family did not have availabe was, (other then therapy) a place to go and talk about our feelings. To be able to share how we were feeling with other people that had gone through the same thing. After all this time, we as a family still have not healed completely. After my daughter's first attempt she still had custody of her 2 daughters. The second time her ex-husband took the girls from where they had been living. The year before he left my daughter and 2 grandaughters at a birthday party at my oldest daughters house and called later that day and said they could not go back to his mother's to live with him, he could live their but not my daughter or grandaughters (the girls were 4 & 5 yrs. old). 3 months later (after going to a marriage counselor) he told me daughter he did not want to be married anymore. To this day my heart still aches for her. For a while my other 3 daughters would have nothing to do with her. My youngest daughter still feels pretty much the same that she did then, I wanted to tell you my story so that maybe you can find a place that people can go and talk about their loved ones and how they as a family can deal with a suicide attempt.
Thank you. Try Catholic Charities(specifically, the L.O.S.S. program),) or the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention ( AFSP,) or even the Willow Creek church. Catholic Charities has the "Loving Outreach to Suicide Survivers", (LOSS) program that has meetings where families can meet and also has 8 wk. educational sessions for a nominal fee. Willow Creek is a nondemonitional church that happens to have tremendous programs for support, such as divorce, grief, and other issues. You do not have to go to church or even be Christian or Catholic to go to these organizations. For a nominal fee, most around 15-35 dollars, you can attend the educational sessions. Most groups are free. It sounds like your daughter needs intensive psychiatric help, not just family and group support, as important as that all may be. If she can prove she is in treatment, she may be able to get her kids back if the court was who took them out of her home to begin with. You didn't mention HOW they came to leave, just that she couldn't have them anymore. Some psychiatric diagnoses can put others in danger, not just the patient. Again, you didn't say specifically if she was diagnosed with something. GET HER TO A DOCTOR and then a good custody lawyer who can help. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention also has loads of educational and research available for anyone. All these places you can "Google" to get the websites. Godspeed, and good luck
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