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November 26, 2008, 4:24 pm PST
Save your judgment
Quote From: ozierabbitIt makes me very sad to hear about your daughter and granddaughters. We have one daughter in college and I can only try and imagine how horrible it must be to have a child so hopeless that she/he feels this is the only thing left. One thing I can't understand is how her sisters could do ANYTHING BUT help her. Nothing my Sisters could do would ever cause me not to love them and try to help them. Maybe YOU could start a support group in your area. Just run an ad in the local paper and see if there are others who need the same type of support. There is really only one person who can truly give her hope and that is God. I pray that her heart will find hope again and she will realize that if a man would do this to his wife and children, is he really worth very much? Not really. Hopefully, one day she will realize that she and her children are worth fighting for and she will not stay at a "pity party", but will pick herself up and have a wonderful life. God Bless. How lucky for you that you have the ability to feel "sad" for another person, but saying that her daughter is at a "Pity Party" proves that you are disingenuous and judgmental. Until you have ever experienced the pain of severe depression, don't EVER presume to understand it or call someone else suffering from it having a "Pity Party!" The pain of depression is stronger and more unbearable than anyone could ever verbally describe, which is why so many people take their own lives.
I have lived on that border more times than I can count, I'm just getting through one of my more difficult times right now. I'm fortunate to have a good counselor and caring family to get me through, even though family is the root of my problems. To hear someone like you say that I've been having a "Pity Party" makes me want to vomit. Do you think a person chooses to live in deep despair, feeling unloved and unwanted? Do you thank ANYONE wants to be unhappy and hopeless? Do you think a person would easily choose death over life? What is wrong with you? Try to understand that the pain a person feels inside is so great that death feels like a better solution to a suicidal person. The causes of such pain are very deeply rooted, so don't presume to know or understand what it takes to get to that point unless you've been raped, molested, victim of a crime, deeply traumatized by something or someone.... any number of things. Chronic pain can cause many people to not want to go on living, pain can be an unbearable thing and Dr.s cannot cure everything. Heartache can make some people reach the point of no return when matched with any of these other things, not to mention loneliness. And not ALL sisters (or brothers, family members) are there for people, wake up!
Also, just a reminder, "God" is not a person, "God" is an idea. People interpret "God" in all kinds of ways. To a person who has been left behind in every way possible, it is not always possible to look to "God" for hope. Be thankful that your life has been as fortunate as it has been, but be more understanding of others who have been dealt a far worse hand in life. Don't judge, you never know what tomorrow brings.
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