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Eric,
I know exactly how you are feeling. My fiance and I are 6 years apart. We met when I was fifteen. He is my cousin's best friend and he was coming home on leave from the Marines. It was his first trip home after his first deployment. We exchanged numbers, not thinking anything of it. We became friends, then best friends. Then there was a point when I knew I was in  love with him. The problem was, I was underage to the military. In our home state, 17 was the legal consent age. But since he was in the military, I had to be 18. It was tough. He got redeployed January 19, 2008. Before he left, he admitted he felt the same way about me that I felt about him. He didn't want something happening to him over there and I not know how he felt. We made a decision that we would wait for each other. We decided that we believed in our love so much that we could wait until it was completely legal. Yes it would be tough, but what better test of your love? We waited and when I turned 18, he watched me graduate and we have been together ever since. I couldn't be happier. We live together and are getting married. But I know how people look at the age thing as being something bad. I think it is just a number, but you might want to try waiting for each other. You could wind up in jail with the label of sex offender for the rest of your life. I don't doubt that you would go through that for her, but maybe you should really think about it first. You can still be friends. Just wait for her age to be the legal consent age of your state to take it farther than that. How guilty do you think she would feel if you ruined your life over her? How hard would she treat herself? Imagine herself mentally attacking herself over it everyday. This is just some food for thought. Your decision is your own. I hope everything works out.

Sincerly,
Dorothi

hey hun, i can understand why your g/fs parents are a little upset. im a mother of 2 girls and it would concern me. i dont know what kind of a kid you are but have you tried to get to know them so they can know who you are and who there daughter is with. im sure the whole sex thing scares the crap out of them a 17 year old boy with rageing hormones wanting to be alone with there daughter ....no way  but have you sat down and talked to them about that. tell them to make rules and respect what they have to say, be honest with them. 13 is pretty young  and things change maybe back off for a while and if you guys really love each other, try again down the road. i thought i was in love many times and something better came along. but the best advice i can give you dont make her parents angry cuz thats a bad way to start any relationship. i hope everything works out for you!

I'm 20 years old and I understand your situation better than most I'd say. I've been there.

It's a very frustrating situation, for every party in this case. You and Theresa love each other and want to be together, and it may seem like you are at the same level of maturity, but you're not. Theresas mother sees that and she is terrified that being with you Theresa you will pressure Theresa into something she's not ready for. Theresa is her baby, she has cared for Theresa since she was a baby. And only wants the very best for her 'baby girl'.

I actually agree with you 4 years isn't too big an age difference, in fact my fiancé is 5 years older than me. But 4 years at this age you are now is a lot.

So here comes my advise: Make friends with Theresas mother. Make her see that you love Theresa and really would do anything to be with her. Because if you really love her, you'll do what it takes, and if you only can have superviced time with Theresa until her parents trust you, it should be a whole lot better than no time with her.

If her parents hate you to the core and won't let you see Theresa superviced then wait. If you are meant to be together then you can wait a few years. 19 and 14 aren't too bad or too long a wait.

Hope it helps.