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October 20, 2008, 9:07 am PDT

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OK... To all the wives/girlfriends out there who complain about the gamer hubby....

I would like to remind you all that I am the wife of a gamer so I know a little of what I am talking about here. I would also like to remind you that your hubbies didn't wake up one day and decide to spend 10 hours on a video game for the first time. You knew getting into the relationship. You knew moving in together. You knew getting married that they were gamers. If you didn't, then you didn't know your hubby. This is not the kind of addiction that comes on quickly or out of the blue. If you didn't like the fact that they were gamers you should have gotten out of the relationship. No one should get into a relationship thinking that the other person will change when you get married/have kids/ask them to.

My hubby is a WoW gamer and spends his $15/month like a champ. He could be out drinking or doing drugs, but his addiction is the computer. I am fully aware of this and have been since we moved in together. If you didn't know or think this is a new addiction of your hubby's, then think real hard about all of the Everquest that they played or the NCAAF on XBox. These are the signs you shouldn't have missed and will now cost you dearly.

Get over the fact that they are gamers or don't get into the relationship to begin with.

I think your message is a little harsh. My husband was actually not a gamer when we I met him 7 1/2 years ago. A couple friends he had a college got him into it. And by then we were already in love and I'd do anything to help him. So it's not as easy as you say to just leave him. I could have threatened to leave him, but that doesn't help the issue. Your husbands addiction obviously doesn't bother you or isn't as bad as others. I know my husband will always like games now, but I've learned to deal with it and he quit playing WoW for me.

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October 20, 2008, 12:30 pm PDT

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OK... To all the wives/girlfriends out there who complain about the gamer hubby....

I would like to remind you all that I am the wife of a gamer so I know a little of what I am talking about here. I would also like to remind you that your hubbies didn't wake up one day and decide to spend 10 hours on a video game for the first time. You knew getting into the relationship. You knew moving in together. You knew getting married that they were gamers. If you didn't, then you didn't know your hubby. This is not the kind of addiction that comes on quickly or out of the blue. If you didn't like the fact that they were gamers you should have gotten out of the relationship. No one should get into a relationship thinking that the other person will change when you get married/have kids/ask them to.

My hubby is a WoW gamer and spends his $15/month like a champ. He could be out drinking or doing drugs, but his addiction is the computer. I am fully aware of this and have been since we moved in together. If you didn't know or think this is a new addiction of your hubby's, then think real hard about all of the Everquest that they played or the NCAAF on XBox. These are the signs you shouldn't have missed and will now cost you dearly.

Get over the fact that they are gamers or don't get into the relationship to begin with.

just so you know my husband knew nothing about video games when i met him. His friends taught him how to play and now he wont get off the computer. so what you say about knowing they are gamers before u marry them may not always be the case.

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October 20, 2008, 1:41 pm PDT

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OK... To all the wives/girlfriends out there who complain about the gamer hubby....

I would like to remind you all that I am the wife of a gamer so I know a little of what I am talking about here. I would also like to remind you that your hubbies didn't wake up one day and decide to spend 10 hours on a video game for the first time. You knew getting into the relationship. You knew moving in together. You knew getting married that they were gamers. If you didn't, then you didn't know your hubby. This is not the kind of addiction that comes on quickly or out of the blue. If you didn't like the fact that they were gamers you should have gotten out of the relationship. No one should get into a relationship thinking that the other person will change when you get married/have kids/ask them to.

My hubby is a WoW gamer and spends his $15/month like a champ. He could be out drinking or doing drugs, but his addiction is the computer. I am fully aware of this and have been since we moved in together. If you didn't know or think this is a new addiction of your hubby's, then think real hard about all of the Everquest that they played or the NCAAF on XBox. These are the signs you shouldn't have missed and will now cost you dearly.

Get over the fact that they are gamers or don't get into the relationship to begin with.

After living together for a year my partner went visit his parents and came back with wow.

After a year of being together and no sign of gaming, he jumped straight to 8 hours a day.

He got sucked. We tried scheduling play, we tried certain days, then times, however promises were always broken.

Even his best friend would bitch about the amount of time he spent gaming and then lo and behold my ex got him sucked in too. They are both now hooked.

So yes, it can start just like that. Maybe don't mention things like that unless you know for a fact.

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October 20, 2008, 2:49 pm PDT

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OK... To all the wives/girlfriends out there who complain about the gamer hubby....

I would like to remind you all that I am the wife of a gamer so I know a little of what I am talking about here. I would also like to remind you that your hubbies didn't wake up one day and decide to spend 10 hours on a video game for the first time. You knew getting into the relationship. You knew moving in together. You knew getting married that they were gamers. If you didn't, then you didn't know your hubby. This is not the kind of addiction that comes on quickly or out of the blue. If you didn't like the fact that they were gamers you should have gotten out of the relationship. No one should get into a relationship thinking that the other person will change when you get married/have kids/ask them to.

My hubby is a WoW gamer and spends his $15/month like a champ. He could be out drinking or doing drugs, but his addiction is the computer. I am fully aware of this and have been since we moved in together. If you didn't know or think this is a new addiction of your hubby's, then think real hard about all of the Everquest that they played or the NCAAF on XBox. These are the signs you shouldn't have missed and will now cost you dearly.

Get over the fact that they are gamers or don't get into the relationship to begin with.

If you didn't like the fact that they were gamers you should have gotten out of the relationship.

In regards to this comment relating to my own experience with this, there comes a time when it's time to grow up, take responsibilty for your family and the direction your life is going. My husband is a closet addict. He wont admit it to his friends that do not share his addiction(like he is embarrased). Since we got married, 2 children are being negleted as well as a wife. I assumed that family would take priority over the game like it did for me, I used to play as well. When families become affected, and marriages are in trouble, then its time to GROW UP and face reality. SO many times I have wanted to take a baseball bat to his TWO ALIENWARE computers that were purchased while I was asleep but I know he would charge 2 more to replace them. This is a huge problem for those of us who have to run the house while our spouse sitting their butt infront of the PC!

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